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I need strength to stop enabling and kick my drug addicted son out
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<blockquote data-quote="lupylisa" data-source="post: 526597" data-attributes="member: 14480"><p>Skippy, I am new here also but in one day see that this is the place to come for the strength that we need to do this. This is bigger than we are but we can grow to match what's being thrown at us. Just know that you have put more worry and thought into your son than he ever has for himself. Know that despite everything you will always love him and throwing him out is a form of love. I am having to play all kinds of mind games with myself to maintain the boundary with our son, who just this week we asked to leave, or not come back. I keep thinking about the kids when they were babies and how strongly I believed in the "sleep chamber method" at a certain age....you know the deal where you were teaching them to go to sleep without rocking or in your bed. You let them cry it out the first night and only slightly make brief interruptions to "check on them", each night these intervals to check on them get longer and longer and usually within the week (or less) they are putting themselves to sleep without crying. This is what I keep imagining when my heart wants to run out the door and go find him and bring him back. Im letting him cry it out on his own and just pray nothing happens to him while he is doing this.</p><p></p><p>Take care of yourself and prepare by changing the locks, possibly getting a security system. Im heeding my own advice and starting all this tomorrow. Like I said, this is a new point for us to be at too!!</p><p></p><p>Keep posting.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lupylisa, post: 526597, member: 14480"] Skippy, I am new here also but in one day see that this is the place to come for the strength that we need to do this. This is bigger than we are but we can grow to match what's being thrown at us. Just know that you have put more worry and thought into your son than he ever has for himself. Know that despite everything you will always love him and throwing him out is a form of love. I am having to play all kinds of mind games with myself to maintain the boundary with our son, who just this week we asked to leave, or not come back. I keep thinking about the kids when they were babies and how strongly I believed in the "sleep chamber method" at a certain age....you know the deal where you were teaching them to go to sleep without rocking or in your bed. You let them cry it out the first night and only slightly make brief interruptions to "check on them", each night these intervals to check on them get longer and longer and usually within the week (or less) they are putting themselves to sleep without crying. This is what I keep imagining when my heart wants to run out the door and go find him and bring him back. Im letting him cry it out on his own and just pray nothing happens to him while he is doing this. Take care of yourself and prepare by changing the locks, possibly getting a security system. Im heeding my own advice and starting all this tomorrow. Like I said, this is a new point for us to be at too!! Keep posting. [/QUOTE]
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