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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 458186" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Lisa, if they had him walking in the hospital and now that he is home he wants you to do everything, it would be in HIS best interest if you told him that you will NOT baby him and he is to get up and get what he wants for himself. I KNOW it is HARD and you will feel terribly mean, and he will say nasty things most likely. But if you baby him and let him get away with this, you are FEEDING the anxiety that he will have a heart attack if he does any walking/exercise. It also may increase the chances of another heart attack because he is not doing what is needed for recovery.</p><p></p><p>He does need anxiety medications and they were idiots in the hospital to not rx them. I also think you have the patience of a saint with him, but you have to temper it with common sense and NOT feed the anxiety monster.</p><p></p><p>I would likely just tell him that if he has enough air in his lungs to yell then he is NOT unable to breathe. </p><p></p><p>I am glad he is home and getting better, and I know that to some extent he needs help, but the more you baby him above what a hospital nurse would do, the more you are telling him that the anxiety is right and the more the anxiety will grow. When he wants something and won't get it himself, ask if they did it for him in the hospital or if he did it himself. </p><p></p><p>Major hugs and patience coming your way!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 458186, member: 1233"] Lisa, if they had him walking in the hospital and now that he is home he wants you to do everything, it would be in HIS best interest if you told him that you will NOT baby him and he is to get up and get what he wants for himself. I KNOW it is HARD and you will feel terribly mean, and he will say nasty things most likely. But if you baby him and let him get away with this, you are FEEDING the anxiety that he will have a heart attack if he does any walking/exercise. It also may increase the chances of another heart attack because he is not doing what is needed for recovery. He does need anxiety medications and they were idiots in the hospital to not rx them. I also think you have the patience of a saint with him, but you have to temper it with common sense and NOT feed the anxiety monster. I would likely just tell him that if he has enough air in his lungs to yell then he is NOT unable to breathe. I am glad he is home and getting better, and I know that to some extent he needs help, but the more you baby him above what a hospital nurse would do, the more you are telling him that the anxiety is right and the more the anxiety will grow. When he wants something and won't get it himself, ask if they did it for him in the hospital or if he did it himself. Major hugs and patience coming your way! [/QUOTE]
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