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<blockquote data-quote="KFld" data-source="post: 86091" data-attributes="member: 2442"><p>I did call him this afternoon and give him a little dose of honesty, because I felt I needed to do it for me. </p><p>I told him that my first priority right now is not working on our marriage, and that my first priority right now is me and finding out what I want for the rest of my life. He wasn't really happy about it, but I told him, you asked me to be honest, so I'm being honest. I told him I owe it to myself to be honest. I also told him that I cannot even put a time frame on how long it is going to take me to figure out what I want and if he can't wait and moves on, that is the chance I will just have to take because I am going to make sure that I do not regret whatever decisions I make and I also never want to go through this again. </p><p></p><p>He mentioned something about having to be totally honest with me in letting me know if it's going to take months then he probably won't be able to wait that long to start a new relationship and then he said something about everybody needing a relationship and that I'll probably need to have one soon myself. I said, a new relationship is the last thing on my mind right now. I can't even think of a new relationship until I fully deal with what happened with this one, and I will not bring any part of this into a new relationship. </p><p></p><p>So I feel good. I was honest about what I need, and he was honest in saying he didn't know if he could wait. Now that I think of it, he didn't wait before, so why would he wait now!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="KFld, post: 86091, member: 2442"] I did call him this afternoon and give him a little dose of honesty, because I felt I needed to do it for me. I told him that my first priority right now is not working on our marriage, and that my first priority right now is me and finding out what I want for the rest of my life. He wasn't really happy about it, but I told him, you asked me to be honest, so I'm being honest. I told him I owe it to myself to be honest. I also told him that I cannot even put a time frame on how long it is going to take me to figure out what I want and if he can't wait and moves on, that is the chance I will just have to take because I am going to make sure that I do not regret whatever decisions I make and I also never want to go through this again. He mentioned something about having to be totally honest with me in letting me know if it's going to take months then he probably won't be able to wait that long to start a new relationship and then he said something about everybody needing a relationship and that I'll probably need to have one soon myself. I said, a new relationship is the last thing on my mind right now. I can't even think of a new relationship until I fully deal with what happened with this one, and I will not bring any part of this into a new relationship. So I feel good. I was honest about what I need, and he was honest in saying he didn't know if he could wait. Now that I think of it, he didn't wait before, so why would he wait now! [/QUOTE]
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