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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 208155" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am so sorry. This sounds like such a rough time for her. I know how hard it is when they want to fit in, esp when they have regular appts and classes the same week.</p><p> </p><p>Hugs to all of you. It is really hard to watch your kids go through so much. I think the prn before going out is a pretty good idea.</p><p> </p><p>One thing to think of BEFORE Thanksgiving and Christmas - plan out those weeks as though you are a general planning a battle. I used to have to really pare down the things we did for ANY holiday to accomodate the boys' various issues (thank you's Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) was almost as big a problem as Wiz' Aspergers for this.). I got LOTS of grief from relatives who didn't understand why we couldn't stay late at their house "just this once, Come on, its a HOLIDAY!", why we had to cancel a lesson or karate class, why certain gifts (ones that fed violent obsessions) or movies had to disappear before the holidays.</p><p> </p><p>I had special holiday videos that were calming (we liked Tangerine Bear for Christmas, as well as the Winnie the Pooh videos and they are still faves), we had activities at home that fed various sensory needs, and we turned down a number of invitations/events. When one of the kids was working hard to fit in, well, we ditched some family events to do a class party. When they didn't care, or like hte child, we did family and not the party. We actually did the class parties, but not the "invite the whole class to a birthday" parties.</p><p> </p><p>I also was careful to schedule both of us available for events so that if one child needed to go home for whatever reason the other kids could stay with one parent. It wasn't easy. We missed a LOT, esp with my extended family (who never could understand). BUT we did eventually learn how to balance their anxieties, fears, needs for routine AND the holiday things. We came to a balance, I guess I am saying.</p><p> </p><p>I know you do most of this already. I just wanted to give you a reminder as the holidays reach out to grab us.</p><p> </p><p>Hugs, and I TOTALLY understand the dislike of the big holidays.</p><p> </p><p>Susie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 208155, member: 1233"] I am so sorry. This sounds like such a rough time for her. I know how hard it is when they want to fit in, esp when they have regular appts and classes the same week. Hugs to all of you. It is really hard to watch your kids go through so much. I think the prn before going out is a pretty good idea. One thing to think of BEFORE Thanksgiving and Christmas - plan out those weeks as though you are a general planning a battle. I used to have to really pare down the things we did for ANY holiday to accomodate the boys' various issues (thank you's Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) was almost as big a problem as Wiz' Aspergers for this.). I got LOTS of grief from relatives who didn't understand why we couldn't stay late at their house "just this once, Come on, its a HOLIDAY!", why we had to cancel a lesson or karate class, why certain gifts (ones that fed violent obsessions) or movies had to disappear before the holidays. I had special holiday videos that were calming (we liked Tangerine Bear for Christmas, as well as the Winnie the Pooh videos and they are still faves), we had activities at home that fed various sensory needs, and we turned down a number of invitations/events. When one of the kids was working hard to fit in, well, we ditched some family events to do a class party. When they didn't care, or like hte child, we did family and not the party. We actually did the class parties, but not the "invite the whole class to a birthday" parties. I also was careful to schedule both of us available for events so that if one child needed to go home for whatever reason the other kids could stay with one parent. It wasn't easy. We missed a LOT, esp with my extended family (who never could understand). BUT we did eventually learn how to balance their anxieties, fears, needs for routine AND the holiday things. We came to a balance, I guess I am saying. I know you do most of this already. I just wanted to give you a reminder as the holidays reach out to grab us. Hugs, and I TOTALLY understand the dislike of the big holidays. Susie [/QUOTE]
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