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<blockquote data-quote="Albatross" data-source="post: 677492" data-attributes="member: 17720"><p>Copa, I just saw your reply.</p><p></p><p></p><p>I have a friend I lost touch with for many years. We reestablished contact and have been catching up on where our lives' journeys have taken us. She elected not to raise any children and has led a very adventurous life, one I would probably wish for myself even if I hadn't spent so much of my life force parenting a d.c.</p><p></p><p>One day I kind of jokingly asked her, "Knowing what I've gone through with d.c., do you regret not raising any kids?" She was quiet for a really long time, then answered me, tearfully, "You love your child enough to die for him, without hesitation. I will never feel a love like that, and I really regret that."</p><p></p><p>And it's true, Copa. We do know loving someone enough to die for them. We do it a little bit every day, until one day we see that it wouldn't do any good. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I know that sense of hopelessness and inadequacy, Copa. But I am not sure that is what made you persevere. I think you persevered because you are strong enough to feel and hold that great love. The challenge, I think, is to see that it wasn't inadequacy you were feeling, it was a need to love. </p><p></p><p>There is a saying I come back to in times like this: "To be loved deeply gives us great strength. To love another deeply gives us great courage." We have been burned in the worst possible way. But we survive and we carry on, and we don't stop loving. We just stop dying for them, because we have seen that it won't do any good.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Albatross, post: 677492, member: 17720"] Copa, I just saw your reply. I have a friend I lost touch with for many years. We reestablished contact and have been catching up on where our lives' journeys have taken us. She elected not to raise any children and has led a very adventurous life, one I would probably wish for myself even if I hadn't spent so much of my life force parenting a d.c. One day I kind of jokingly asked her, "Knowing what I've gone through with d.c., do you regret not raising any kids?" She was quiet for a really long time, then answered me, tearfully, "You love your child enough to die for him, without hesitation. I will never feel a love like that, and I really regret that." And it's true, Copa. We do know loving someone enough to die for them. We do it a little bit every day, until one day we see that it wouldn't do any good. I know that sense of hopelessness and inadequacy, Copa. But I am not sure that is what made you persevere. I think you persevered because you are strong enough to feel and hold that great love. The challenge, I think, is to see that it wasn't inadequacy you were feeling, it was a need to love. There is a saying I come back to in times like this: "To be loved deeply gives us great strength. To love another deeply gives us great courage." We have been burned in the worst possible way. But we survive and we carry on, and we don't stop loving. We just stop dying for them, because we have seen that it won't do any good. [/QUOTE]
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