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I requested meeting with school. difficult child "fine" at school, but terror at home?? Advice?
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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 518290" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>I agree, this will do nothing to help....(though hard not to question, I get that but wipe it out of your brain, ok???).</p><p></p><p>I just re-read parts of The Explosive Child and really parents often can't win. Called bad parents if they are worse at school because they must be exposing them to things, not providing enough consequences and letting them get away with murder at home and that is why limits at school dont work. If they are better at home well then it is because parents dont know how to handle them like a school does. They are not attentive enough or whatever.</p><p></p><p>The bottom line is that the two settings are very different. There are many reasons and issues that make kids react differently in each setting. It is unproductive to blame or feel guilt. Just need to find out what the needs are, and to see if there are things about school that make maintaining easier for him (like schedules, routines, visual cues, etc....) or if he is struggling there but works extra hard to hold it together so falls apart at home, or medications wear off or dozens of other issues.....</p><p></p><p>Also, at his age...many high functioning Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kids can do well in these structured settings.... and social demands are not as great because the range of play abilities really varies naturally, adults are used to helping etc. Enjoy for now that there are not many issues at school. It often does not stay that way as the years go on (sorry to say that, not always true but just be aware).</p><p></p><p>Hang in there... keep plugging away</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 518290, member: 12886"] I agree, this will do nothing to help....(though hard not to question, I get that but wipe it out of your brain, ok???). I just re-read parts of The Explosive Child and really parents often can't win. Called bad parents if they are worse at school because they must be exposing them to things, not providing enough consequences and letting them get away with murder at home and that is why limits at school dont work. If they are better at home well then it is because parents dont know how to handle them like a school does. They are not attentive enough or whatever. The bottom line is that the two settings are very different. There are many reasons and issues that make kids react differently in each setting. It is unproductive to blame or feel guilt. Just need to find out what the needs are, and to see if there are things about school that make maintaining easier for him (like schedules, routines, visual cues, etc....) or if he is struggling there but works extra hard to hold it together so falls apart at home, or medications wear off or dozens of other issues..... Also, at his age...many high functioning Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kids can do well in these structured settings.... and social demands are not as great because the range of play abilities really varies naturally, adults are used to helping etc. Enjoy for now that there are not many issues at school. It often does not stay that way as the years go on (sorry to say that, not always true but just be aware). Hang in there... keep plugging away [/QUOTE]
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