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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 582159" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Tia, </p><p></p><p>I don't have any advice. Mostly because, well - there but for the Grace of God go I. Not necessarily with my Mother, but were I to be completely honest with the people I care about in the world, and a person whom I care about (counting on ten fingers most in the world whom I've never met) I'd have to say </p><p>"Well kid ya did what you felt at the time was right based on what you knew at the time to be the best thing for everyone involved and.....(then?) Life happens. Doesn't it? </p><p></p><p>And isn't it just so great to have people (((shrug)) ...and from what I can see in this case - not so much - who just stand here and shoot you the view they see from EITHER their own lifes experiences (and how did they get those if they didn't do the same thing? OR gently stand here and hug you from long distance and say "Meh" so now you know. I mean it would be just great if EVERY experience in life were so justly learned like putting the palm of your hand on a hot stove eye.......and pulling it back and stating to yourself - HOT D((((#%& I'll NEVER NEVER do that again - HOLY #)(*% that hurts....W)AAAA@ I'll remember those blisters as long as I live.....JJEEEEEZZZZZZZ the pain from that experience was immense....and IF I DO THAT EVER AGAIN the result will NEVER EVER change no matter what the variables are. And CHILD BIRTH.....Holy MOses...sex would be out for life. (and well if we're going back to .....never mind another post perhas) ..... If that were true? We'd never date again....(and trust me I've dated some hot men, but NEVER anything like the burner on a stove), and I've had some bad accidents, and some really horrible accidents on horses.....and I mean holy snot my personal list is like....well I told you.....they're renaming it "Stars Law" not Murphys Law. (seeking that Voodoo doll of whatever the opposite of Santaria is still no luck) .......</p><p></p><p>But bottom line here is.....I think you were spot on to try and.........the key words in the whole entire conversation as with ANY conversation that we have that brought ALL of us together (thank GOD) was MENTALLY ILL. I mean Some days it's overwhelming. YES. SOmedays I say things about caps and butts that I think....yeah probably shoun't have typed that. (never mind everyone one else) but....truth is.....WE met because of ALL the mentally ILL people we have in our lives. We are friends because of MENTAL illness. (stops to cry a moment) WHY? BECAUSE ITS TOUGH ****IT. It's not for sissies. IT's not for the faint of heart......it's not for weakings......and SOME of us....like you have been dealing with this junk for your entire life, and BOY OH BOY could you use a break. And you have gotten a small one.....and you got your batteries recharged, and so you thought......OKAY I can battle a little more today so you went back to (not help) but what seemed NORMAL. (catch that) ........(ahhhhh but star you are so backwards) .....no I'm not. It's engrained in you. It's engrained in me. But we had therapy, and time in "normal world" and we got a taste of NORMAL" and we LIKED IT......it was a little more PEACEFUL there, and a little LESS stressful there...and we thought...WOW....WOW......lets stay here. And then the mentally ill world said "PSsssssssssst.....remember me" and our brain went....."uhhhhhh oh yeah.....we should really try now to help that now that we're a little stronger...." and we get (strong inhale sound) right back over there. </p><p></p><p>For some of us......it's a few weeks........for some of us.....it's a few years......for some of us it's 20 years......and for the rare few...it's never. never. never. And hooray for that. </p><p> </p><p>If I did offer anything I'd only say ....YOU are a wonderful daughter, a Phenominal Mother......and one of the best friends I have ever never met in my life. I love you dearly. I would be lost without you. I think your Mom will too. Anyone that would take 10 mnutes to get to know you in a right frame of mind? (haha ----um that does include me most days ya know) ......would see that. </p><p></p><p>Hugs & Love ----lots of it dear one. </p><p>Starbie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 582159, member: 4964"] Tia, I don't have any advice. Mostly because, well - there but for the Grace of God go I. Not necessarily with my Mother, but were I to be completely honest with the people I care about in the world, and a person whom I care about (counting on ten fingers most in the world whom I've never met) I'd have to say "Well kid ya did what you felt at the time was right based on what you knew at the time to be the best thing for everyone involved and.....(then?) Life happens. Doesn't it? And isn't it just so great to have people (((shrug)) ...and from what I can see in this case - not so much - who just stand here and shoot you the view they see from EITHER their own lifes experiences (and how did they get those if they didn't do the same thing? OR gently stand here and hug you from long distance and say "Meh" so now you know. I mean it would be just great if EVERY experience in life were so justly learned like putting the palm of your hand on a hot stove eye.......and pulling it back and stating to yourself - HOT D((((#%& I'll NEVER NEVER do that again - HOLY #)(*% that hurts....W)AAAA@ I'll remember those blisters as long as I live.....JJEEEEEZZZZZZZ the pain from that experience was immense....and IF I DO THAT EVER AGAIN the result will NEVER EVER change no matter what the variables are. And CHILD BIRTH.....Holy MOses...sex would be out for life. (and well if we're going back to .....never mind another post perhas) ..... If that were true? We'd never date again....(and trust me I've dated some hot men, but NEVER anything like the burner on a stove), and I've had some bad accidents, and some really horrible accidents on horses.....and I mean holy snot my personal list is like....well I told you.....they're renaming it "Stars Law" not Murphys Law. (seeking that Voodoo doll of whatever the opposite of Santaria is still no luck) ....... But bottom line here is.....I think you were spot on to try and.........the key words in the whole entire conversation as with ANY conversation that we have that brought ALL of us together (thank GOD) was MENTALLY ILL. I mean Some days it's overwhelming. YES. SOmedays I say things about caps and butts that I think....yeah probably shoun't have typed that. (never mind everyone one else) but....truth is.....WE met because of ALL the mentally ILL people we have in our lives. We are friends because of MENTAL illness. (stops to cry a moment) WHY? BECAUSE ITS TOUGH ****IT. It's not for sissies. IT's not for the faint of heart......it's not for weakings......and SOME of us....like you have been dealing with this junk for your entire life, and BOY OH BOY could you use a break. And you have gotten a small one.....and you got your batteries recharged, and so you thought......OKAY I can battle a little more today so you went back to (not help) but what seemed NORMAL. (catch that) ........(ahhhhh but star you are so backwards) .....no I'm not. It's engrained in you. It's engrained in me. But we had therapy, and time in "normal world" and we got a taste of NORMAL" and we LIKED IT......it was a little more PEACEFUL there, and a little LESS stressful there...and we thought...WOW....WOW......lets stay here. And then the mentally ill world said "PSsssssssssst.....remember me" and our brain went....."uhhhhhh oh yeah.....we should really try now to help that now that we're a little stronger...." and we get (strong inhale sound) right back over there. For some of us......it's a few weeks........for some of us.....it's a few years......for some of us it's 20 years......and for the rare few...it's never. never. never. And hooray for that. If I did offer anything I'd only say ....YOU are a wonderful daughter, a Phenominal Mother......and one of the best friends I have ever never met in my life. I love you dearly. I would be lost without you. I think your Mom will too. Anyone that would take 10 mnutes to get to know you in a right frame of mind? (haha ----um that does include me most days ya know) ......would see that. Hugs & Love ----lots of it dear one. Starbie [/QUOTE]
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