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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 725017" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am so sorry that you have to go through this. I totally applaud you for not saying it isn't your daughter's fault, for recognizing her fault in this. Of course the boys are completely at fault also, but your daughter seems to have done this on purpose, with this end in mind. This level of bullying is just awful and so extreme. </p><p></p><p>Do what is needed to see that an outside authority (the police) gives her a consequence. It would be best if you were not the ones to bring in the police. It would show her that others are not going to cut her slack just because she is young. Of course the cops and courts are not going to do much while she is young, unless they charge her as an adult. That is always a possibility if you are in the US. Some of it depends on if she looks young and sweet and innocent, sadly enough. </p><p></p><p>Please explain to the courts that the hystrionic personality disorder isn't really a mental illness that can be helped with therapy. It is more of a mental condition that she won't thinks needs to be helped, so she needs strong consequences in order to learn that what she does will not be accepted. That may be an uphill battle, but it is the truth. Personality disorders are not really something that can be changed unless the person does a TON of work. Generally the person with the disorder doesn't think they have a problem, everyone else has a problem with them. </p><p></p><p>I also urge you to get her evaluated for an IEP and for a new, more restrictive placement where she can have less exposure to peers and technology. She just cannot handle it without causing havoc. The schools must provide what she needs (public schools) as she has a right to a free and appropriate public education in the least restrictive environment. Also known as FAPE in LRE. This means they have to educate her in the least buttoned down placement that she can handle. She clearly cannot handle where she is, so they need to evaluate her and place her where she cannot create these problems. Just because she has good grades or whatever doesn't mean she doesn't qualify. Though I don't know if she has good grades with ODD. They cannot deny her the evaluation if you put the request in writing and send it by certified mail, return receipt requested (meaning someone must sign for it). They have to do the testing in a certain amount of days and then meet with you. You also need to provide them with something from her doctors saying she has been diagnosed with HPD and ODD and what these mean to her education. Well, you don't need to, but it would be very helpful if they had that information. </p><p></p><p>I hope this helps.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 725017, member: 1233"] I am so sorry that you have to go through this. I totally applaud you for not saying it isn't your daughter's fault, for recognizing her fault in this. Of course the boys are completely at fault also, but your daughter seems to have done this on purpose, with this end in mind. This level of bullying is just awful and so extreme. Do what is needed to see that an outside authority (the police) gives her a consequence. It would be best if you were not the ones to bring in the police. It would show her that others are not going to cut her slack just because she is young. Of course the cops and courts are not going to do much while she is young, unless they charge her as an adult. That is always a possibility if you are in the US. Some of it depends on if she looks young and sweet and innocent, sadly enough. Please explain to the courts that the hystrionic personality disorder isn't really a mental illness that can be helped with therapy. It is more of a mental condition that she won't thinks needs to be helped, so she needs strong consequences in order to learn that what she does will not be accepted. That may be an uphill battle, but it is the truth. Personality disorders are not really something that can be changed unless the person does a TON of work. Generally the person with the disorder doesn't think they have a problem, everyone else has a problem with them. I also urge you to get her evaluated for an IEP and for a new, more restrictive placement where she can have less exposure to peers and technology. She just cannot handle it without causing havoc. The schools must provide what she needs (public schools) as she has a right to a free and appropriate public education in the least restrictive environment. Also known as FAPE in LRE. This means they have to educate her in the least buttoned down placement that she can handle. She clearly cannot handle where she is, so they need to evaluate her and place her where she cannot create these problems. Just because she has good grades or whatever doesn't mean she doesn't qualify. Though I don't know if she has good grades with ODD. They cannot deny her the evaluation if you put the request in writing and send it by certified mail, return receipt requested (meaning someone must sign for it). They have to do the testing in a certain amount of days and then meet with you. You also need to provide them with something from her doctors saying she has been diagnosed with HPD and ODD and what these mean to her education. Well, you don't need to, but it would be very helpful if they had that information. I hope this helps. [/QUOTE]
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