Now that our oldest daughter is living with us, the differences in my parenting style and hubby's parenting style are really showing. I get so frustrated with what *I* see as favoritism, and he is struggling with the same thing -- thinks I'm too lax with mine and that I blame his daughter for everything. We need help, fast! We have "house rules" that apply to all, but to ME it seems like he lets her get away with more, when I think she should get away with LESS being the oldest and most mature. He seems more gruff with my kids when they are being slugs about getting ready for school, doesn't grumble at his daughter as much (it seems to me) and just overall has a longer fuse with her. I KNOW I'm not perfect, I am not avoiding any amount of blame in this. I am more "relaxed" when it comes to hey, time to go, as I know with my explosive/rigid child, you can't just expect him to STOP doing what he's doing and walk away from it. He does NOT operate that way. I feel like hubby thinks I'm not firm enough with him, that it is a defiant behavior or that he's ignoring/disobeying/disrespecting me when he doesn't shut off the video game after I've told him 3 times. I know I probably have to remind him 5 times before the switch in his brain gets the message. I don't want to go rounds with hubby over these things ... we need each other's support too much. Any ideas?