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<blockquote data-quote="Robinboots" data-source="post: 343611" data-attributes="member: 4542"><p>Yes, I am exhausted and no, not taking it as criticism. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>It's a pattern here: difficult child, on the surface, does what he's supposed to do. Then he gets more cocky and tries to "get away" with more and more. We discover something "bad", which leads to more and more things going on that should be happening. We say something to him, like yesterday, when I said look, kiddo, we ask you to do ABC, and that's it, but you are choosing not only to NOT DO ABC, but you are also doing XYZ.</p><p></p><p>Then we impose some sort of sanction, whether it's ONLY going to and from work, a grounding from the car, the Internet, whatever. Those are usually not just ineffective, but a total waste of time to even discuss.</p><p></p><p>So the "confrontation", and I don't mean yelling or physical stuff, just talking, ends up with him being accusatory - doesn't matter how we phrase things, or how we approach it - lying, etc., etc., and he takes off. Now, he hasn't done that for awhile, but yesterday, at the end of my rope, I gave him that choice.</p><p></p><p>For awhile I was tracking everything. I decided, weeks ago, that it just didn't matter, he was gonna do whatever he was gonna do. But I cannot sit back while he's taking $$, selling stuff, buying who-knows-what, hanging out who-knows-where, and not say a word. He's my son, he's under my roof.</p><p></p><p>And it's been a continuous battle of him doing whatever he wants; he gets away with it for a short time, till something comes to our attention, then we find more "stuff" and we take action.</p><p></p><p>He's been on probation since last March, for assault. On me. He has a HUGE issue with me, and no counselor or anyone has been able to uncover it. At all. The judge is NOT happy with him. And likely that will continue. When he finds out what's going on now, I suspect difficult child will be back in detention. I don't know. He was lucky the last two times in court to avoid that.</p><p></p><p>Still no word, and his backpack is still on the porch. Yesterday I did give him the option - follow the rules, ours and those of the court, or leave. I can't keep trying. Whatever he is, he's going to stay that way until some cataclysmic event.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Robinboots, post: 343611, member: 4542"] Yes, I am exhausted and no, not taking it as criticism. :) It's a pattern here: difficult child, on the surface, does what he's supposed to do. Then he gets more cocky and tries to "get away" with more and more. We discover something "bad", which leads to more and more things going on that should be happening. We say something to him, like yesterday, when I said look, kiddo, we ask you to do ABC, and that's it, but you are choosing not only to NOT DO ABC, but you are also doing XYZ. Then we impose some sort of sanction, whether it's ONLY going to and from work, a grounding from the car, the Internet, whatever. Those are usually not just ineffective, but a total waste of time to even discuss. So the "confrontation", and I don't mean yelling or physical stuff, just talking, ends up with him being accusatory - doesn't matter how we phrase things, or how we approach it - lying, etc., etc., and he takes off. Now, he hasn't done that for awhile, but yesterday, at the end of my rope, I gave him that choice. For awhile I was tracking everything. I decided, weeks ago, that it just didn't matter, he was gonna do whatever he was gonna do. But I cannot sit back while he's taking $$, selling stuff, buying who-knows-what, hanging out who-knows-where, and not say a word. He's my son, he's under my roof. And it's been a continuous battle of him doing whatever he wants; he gets away with it for a short time, till something comes to our attention, then we find more "stuff" and we take action. He's been on probation since last March, for assault. On me. He has a HUGE issue with me, and no counselor or anyone has been able to uncover it. At all. The judge is NOT happy with him. And likely that will continue. When he finds out what's going on now, I suspect difficult child will be back in detention. I don't know. He was lucky the last two times in court to avoid that. Still no word, and his backpack is still on the porch. Yesterday I did give him the option - follow the rules, ours and those of the court, or leave. I can't keep trying. Whatever he is, he's going to stay that way until some cataclysmic event. [/QUOTE]
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