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I think he's sticking his finger down his throat
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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 308622" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Be very wary of rewarding the illness with what he is wanting. Even if this is NOT under conscious control, you risk developing a conditioned response - "If I throw up, I get to stay home near Mom and get coddled."</p><p></p><p>We used to have a rule - he could only stay home if he was running a fever. Then he began developing low-grade fevers with his anxiety. Again, not doing this on purpose, he was convinced he was genuinely ill with something infectious.</p><p></p><p>That is when I began a rule - if you're home from school for ANY reason, you MUST do school work during school hours. The only way out of it, is to be in bed, asleep. That way a kid who is geuinely too ill to go to school will sleep and recover; a kid who can even sit up in bed in PJs will at least be given some bookwork to do. At first I begged work sheets from his teacher. difficult child 3 would do any outstanding homework to begin with; then worksheets, then I would find something for him to do from our own supplies. husband & I collect documentary DVDs, so difficult child 3 would get plonked down in front of the TV to watch these. Or he would get to do a computer game which is educational.</p><p></p><p>Because we did this, he learned to keep working even when he's feeling sick. To "soldier on". That has turned out to be very useful, it set up a valuable discipline in him.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 308622, member: 1991"] Be very wary of rewarding the illness with what he is wanting. Even if this is NOT under conscious control, you risk developing a conditioned response - "If I throw up, I get to stay home near Mom and get coddled." We used to have a rule - he could only stay home if he was running a fever. Then he began developing low-grade fevers with his anxiety. Again, not doing this on purpose, he was convinced he was genuinely ill with something infectious. That is when I began a rule - if you're home from school for ANY reason, you MUST do school work during school hours. The only way out of it, is to be in bed, asleep. That way a kid who is geuinely too ill to go to school will sleep and recover; a kid who can even sit up in bed in PJs will at least be given some bookwork to do. At first I begged work sheets from his teacher. difficult child 3 would do any outstanding homework to begin with; then worksheets, then I would find something for him to do from our own supplies. husband & I collect documentary DVDs, so difficult child 3 would get plonked down in front of the TV to watch these. Or he would get to do a computer game which is educational. Because we did this, he learned to keep working even when he's feeling sick. To "soldier on". That has turned out to be very useful, it set up a valuable discipline in him. Marg [/QUOTE]
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