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I think I am done, and I am so sad...
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<blockquote data-quote="exhausted" data-source="post: 588539" data-attributes="member: 11001"><p>I think you do what you can, when you can, and how you can. If you cant live with him, he has to go. I dont think I could do the things you have done past 18 either. That said, many could not do what I have done with my difficult child who is 18. She would have been long gone. She did move for 4months but was still here 5 days a week because of very early work hours(no bus at that time). Eventually she became very unstable and suicidal and we were advised to bring her home. </p><p></p><p>I once gathered all the numbers to shelters, crisisline and other services for difficult child. Being 18 is just a number and your question is tough.....where do they go? My difficult child doesnt have but a few real friends and there is no way she could couch surf with them.On the other hand, maybe some time on the street is what will get them to be sober and behave. I personally think it is all sixes because in the end, it is their choice. In FA, there are stories that go both ways...success after being kicked out, and success when living at home. There is also disaster after being kicked out as well as disaster at home. The stats.dont support either method. When dealing with people, there is never one way. I think in the end you do what you can do. Whatever you do, you have to live with and know it is the best for your family. You have done a lot already. You have younger kids. </p><p>I am so sorry for the lost potential (mine too was gifted), this part gets easier to deal with because in the end you just want them functioning and alive. I hear you, support you, and have hope. Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="exhausted, post: 588539, member: 11001"] I think you do what you can, when you can, and how you can. If you cant live with him, he has to go. I dont think I could do the things you have done past 18 either. That said, many could not do what I have done with my difficult child who is 18. She would have been long gone. She did move for 4months but was still here 5 days a week because of very early work hours(no bus at that time). Eventually she became very unstable and suicidal and we were advised to bring her home. I once gathered all the numbers to shelters, crisisline and other services for difficult child. Being 18 is just a number and your question is tough.....where do they go? My difficult child doesnt have but a few real friends and there is no way she could couch surf with them.On the other hand, maybe some time on the street is what will get them to be sober and behave. I personally think it is all sixes because in the end, it is their choice. In FA, there are stories that go both ways...success after being kicked out, and success when living at home. There is also disaster after being kicked out as well as disaster at home. The stats.dont support either method. When dealing with people, there is never one way. I think in the end you do what you can do. Whatever you do, you have to live with and know it is the best for your family. You have done a lot already. You have younger kids. I am so sorry for the lost potential (mine too was gifted), this part gets easier to deal with because in the end you just want them functioning and alive. I hear you, support you, and have hope. Hugs [/QUOTE]
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