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I think I am leaning toward removing Son from Residential Treatment Center (RTC)
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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 110591" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>You mentioned before that you are getting help while he is gone.</p><p>What type of therapy or support group are you using to help you</p><p>keep your perspective? There is often such a tight degree of attachment between a single parent and child that it is extra difficult to detach enough to let the child develop into an independent being. Your son may be the sweetest, kindest and most sensitive boy alive (thanks to your picture, I know he sure</p><p>is one of the cutest!) but alot of what you have shared after visiting with him sounds nicely manipulative. I get the strong</p><p>impression that he knows that your need for his presence is greater than the average parent and that he is playing into that</p><p>need to get back home. </p><p></p><p>I don't mean to be unkind at all, David, but he needs to develop a life of his own...a life that may not even include you except for a Christmas visit once a year and a few phone calls. That is the goal. He needs to find his path and head down the road.</p><p>It sounds as though you have made him your path and now is the time for you to develop a new sense of yourself as an adult male</p><p>who happens to have a son...who will be launching is own life in</p><p>four years or so. It is not the time to cling. It is time to</p><p>free both of you for a different healthier future.</p><p></p><p>Yes, I do understand the pain and the tears. Conversely, you</p><p>can love your child with your whole heart at the same time you</p><p>live a life suitable for an adult. That demonstrates how adults</p><p>live and sets a healthy example. Hugs. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 110591, member: 35"] You mentioned before that you are getting help while he is gone. What type of therapy or support group are you using to help you keep your perspective? There is often such a tight degree of attachment between a single parent and child that it is extra difficult to detach enough to let the child develop into an independent being. Your son may be the sweetest, kindest and most sensitive boy alive (thanks to your picture, I know he sure is one of the cutest!) but alot of what you have shared after visiting with him sounds nicely manipulative. I get the strong impression that he knows that your need for his presence is greater than the average parent and that he is playing into that need to get back home. I don't mean to be unkind at all, David, but he needs to develop a life of his own...a life that may not even include you except for a Christmas visit once a year and a few phone calls. That is the goal. He needs to find his path and head down the road. It sounds as though you have made him your path and now is the time for you to develop a new sense of yourself as an adult male who happens to have a son...who will be launching is own life in four years or so. It is not the time to cling. It is time to free both of you for a different healthier future. Yes, I do understand the pain and the tears. Conversely, you can love your child with your whole heart at the same time you live a life suitable for an adult. That demonstrates how adults live and sets a healthy example. Hugs. DDD [/QUOTE]
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