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I think I am leaning toward removing Son from Residential Treatment Center (RTC)
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<blockquote data-quote="timer lady" data-source="post: 110621" data-attributes="member: 393"><p>Oh David,</p><p></p><p>We have had discharge from Residential Treatment Center (RTC) with little to no transition due to funding issues & it has been ugly. wm hadn't completed the treatment plan; when he had to return to Residential Treatment Center (RTC) it was uglier. In his mind he had graduated & didn't need to be there. Therefore, he wasn't going to work the program.</p><p></p><p>When kt went to Residential Treatment Center (RTC) we worked out a very formal very detailed transition/discharge plan. It had to be to be successful. AND it took time. kt was in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) a good 11 months before everything was in order & she was ready to "graduate" & come home. </p><p></p><p>And when she did come home, we had services here. Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) worker, in home therapist, respite & personal care attendants. </p><p></p><p>wm, ultimately, ended up in a foster group home. We are coparenting wm with the foster mum & dad there. </p><p></p><p>What I'm saying is that I understand a parent's heart - it's not right for your child not to be living under your roof. None of this is right.</p><p></p><p>And having been through this a few or more times, please know that it takes time. It isn't going to come easy nor will it happen quickly. </p><p></p><p>While kt was in her last placement, husband & I spent a good 6 or 7 months in therapy alone & together. The strain of the tweedles illness on our personal lives was extreme. Personally, I was at the end of my rope. Our marriage was shaky - fragile. The whole family was fragile. We spent this time rebuilding ourselves...our lives. Our personal interests; our marriage. It was healing.</p><p></p><p>And it's important for a parent to use this time to do this. We also shut out the outside noise - you know, the comments from family & friends about our children. These people weren't living our lives. Could only see from the outside in & comments of a negative nature weren't helpful.</p><p></p><p>When it came time to work the transition home, it was worked out slowly. It started with short visits & slowly moved to overnights. Then to weekends & onto week long visits. There were expectations. And it was the same old daily life that kt would be living once she was here. The dishes, cleaning room, laundry & then the fun stuff. There wasn't constant amusement (as Residential Treatment Center (RTC)'s tend to offer our little wonders); kt had to learn to be bored & then to amuse herself. She had to become a part of the family once again.</p><p></p><p>I'm not saying that it isn't time to transition your difficult child home; only you, the psychiatrist & the tdocs at Residential Treatment Center (RTC) will know that. Mostly it's going to show up in your difficult child. I'd love to see your difficult child show the same improvement in your home setting on a consistent basis during transition visits.</p><p></p><p>Good luck with your decision - this is hard. We all want our children home again. Sometimes our children are ready....sometimes they aren't.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="timer lady, post: 110621, member: 393"] Oh David, We have had discharge from Residential Treatment Center (RTC) with little to no transition due to funding issues & it has been ugly. wm hadn't completed the treatment plan; when he had to return to Residential Treatment Center (RTC) it was uglier. In his mind he had graduated & didn't need to be there. Therefore, he wasn't going to work the program. When kt went to Residential Treatment Center (RTC) we worked out a very formal very detailed transition/discharge plan. It had to be to be successful. AND it took time. kt was in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) a good 11 months before everything was in order & she was ready to "graduate" & come home. And when she did come home, we had services here. Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) worker, in home therapist, respite & personal care attendants. wm, ultimately, ended up in a foster group home. We are coparenting wm with the foster mum & dad there. What I'm saying is that I understand a parent's heart - it's not right for your child not to be living under your roof. None of this is right. And having been through this a few or more times, please know that it takes time. It isn't going to come easy nor will it happen quickly. While kt was in her last placement, husband & I spent a good 6 or 7 months in therapy alone & together. The strain of the tweedles illness on our personal lives was extreme. Personally, I was at the end of my rope. Our marriage was shaky - fragile. The whole family was fragile. We spent this time rebuilding ourselves...our lives. Our personal interests; our marriage. It was healing. And it's important for a parent to use this time to do this. We also shut out the outside noise - you know, the comments from family & friends about our children. These people weren't living our lives. Could only see from the outside in & comments of a negative nature weren't helpful. When it came time to work the transition home, it was worked out slowly. It started with short visits & slowly moved to overnights. Then to weekends & onto week long visits. There were expectations. And it was the same old daily life that kt would be living once she was here. The dishes, cleaning room, laundry & then the fun stuff. There wasn't constant amusement (as Residential Treatment Center (RTC)'s tend to offer our little wonders); kt had to learn to be bored & then to amuse herself. She had to become a part of the family once again. I'm not saying that it isn't time to transition your difficult child home; only you, the psychiatrist & the tdocs at Residential Treatment Center (RTC) will know that. Mostly it's going to show up in your difficult child. I'd love to see your difficult child show the same improvement in your home setting on a consistent basis during transition visits. Good luck with your decision - this is hard. We all want our children home again. Sometimes our children are ready....sometimes they aren't. [/QUOTE]
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