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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 364988" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Time to turn off the cable and internet except to rooms and times you and husband want them in. You can set up a router through a computer in your room such that internet is ONLY available with a password or at certain times. Stock the house with foods they are not fond of, esp foods you LOVE that they HATE. The stronger the smell the better.</p><p></p><p>Pile on the chores. Leave detailed lists daily. Include gross things like scrubbing the trash cans, cleaning the toilets, poop detail for the furbabies, etc... If you have cats, bathing them is an AWESOME chore if you want to drive the kids out. NO ONE likes bathing a cat. You can use your own allergy problems, say it was recommended to help with flea control, whatever.</p><p></p><p>Do you like music that they despise? Play it often and LOUD. Esp when they are trying to watch tv or have friends around or are sleeping. </p><p></p><p>Neck on the couch with husband. You probably won't have to do more than kiss to make them VERY uncomfortable. They are still young enough that the THOUGHT of you and husband being intimate is "gross" -- seeing you kiss will creep them out. Do it often. When they say something tell them that they are old enough to either get over it or get their own place.</p><p></p><p>Do either of them have pet peeves like seeing/hearing someone chew with their mouth open, hearing someone suck on their front teeth, certain smells, etc...? USE THEM!!!</p><p></p><p>What do they find gross? Certain shows? Hearing you talk about sex? I have one friend who just could NOT handle even hearing her mom talk about sex in general. Even talks about birth control, etc... upset her. When her mom felt it was time for daughter to move out or grow up the mom started taping Dr Ruth and that show with Sue somebody - Canadian lady - who is very frank about sex, toys, etc... - and the mom would make a point of watching them whenever daughter settled in to watch tv. Esp since the daughter would sit and complain through anything else. (The mom said that the upside of that was that she and her husband tried some new things talked about on the show, LOL. The mom is a good friend of mine also.)</p><p></p><p>Do your girls have their stuff all over the house? Box up whatever is in the common areas. Have them keep their stuff in their own rooms - and leave much of your stuff alone if possible. Do the girls ever go on trips? Gfgbro used to come "home" to my folks every Christmas. And stay until sometime between March and May. He did like to take off for a few days (meaning 3 days to 3 weeks with NO notice of when he was returning). My mom packed all his stuff up a couple of years when he would do that. </p><p></p><p>If they like to sleep in a room that isn't their bedroom, use it! On another thread I described some stuff my mom did to curb that when my bro did it as a kid. Painting his feet with tuna juice and locking the cat in was one thing. Painting his nails with a frosty champagne color and tossing all the remover was another. She did make sure his best friend told ALL gfgbro's friends about the nails. AND the guys on the construction crew he was working on. Another time she put strips of duct tape all over his hairy legs.</p><p></p><p>If you REALLY want to make someone mad put RIT dye in their shampoo. If they use strawberry shampoo add red dye. Blue dye is great in head and shoulders, etc... This works best if they have light or bleached hair. If their job would object it could be a HUGE deal. Or if they wouldn't handle it well. You want them out of the house, not your life after all.</p><p></p><p>You can wash all their clothes on HOT, or add bleach after the clothes are in. Make off the wall comments to their bfs and friends. </p><p></p><p>Have you ever seen the movie "How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days" with Kate Hudson and Matthew McConaughy? Some of those ideas might work. Esp the one where she walks into poker night and makes the guy blow his nose because no one likes mr sniffles. </p><p></p><p>I am willing to bet that looking over Step's house rules, thinking of the ideas in this thread, and pulling in your own creativity will work together to achieve your empty nest fairly soon. If you need other ideas you might watch the movie "Failure to Launch".</p><p></p><p>Many hugs!</p><p></p><p>ps. Start making them cover their phone bills, insurance, anything else you pay for and want to change. Just watch HOW you do it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 364988, member: 1233"] Time to turn off the cable and internet except to rooms and times you and husband want them in. You can set up a router through a computer in your room such that internet is ONLY available with a password or at certain times. Stock the house with foods they are not fond of, esp foods you LOVE that they HATE. The stronger the smell the better. Pile on the chores. Leave detailed lists daily. Include gross things like scrubbing the trash cans, cleaning the toilets, poop detail for the furbabies, etc... If you have cats, bathing them is an AWESOME chore if you want to drive the kids out. NO ONE likes bathing a cat. You can use your own allergy problems, say it was recommended to help with flea control, whatever. Do you like music that they despise? Play it often and LOUD. Esp when they are trying to watch tv or have friends around or are sleeping. Neck on the couch with husband. You probably won't have to do more than kiss to make them VERY uncomfortable. They are still young enough that the THOUGHT of you and husband being intimate is "gross" -- seeing you kiss will creep them out. Do it often. When they say something tell them that they are old enough to either get over it or get their own place. Do either of them have pet peeves like seeing/hearing someone chew with their mouth open, hearing someone suck on their front teeth, certain smells, etc...? USE THEM!!! What do they find gross? Certain shows? Hearing you talk about sex? I have one friend who just could NOT handle even hearing her mom talk about sex in general. Even talks about birth control, etc... upset her. When her mom felt it was time for daughter to move out or grow up the mom started taping Dr Ruth and that show with Sue somebody - Canadian lady - who is very frank about sex, toys, etc... - and the mom would make a point of watching them whenever daughter settled in to watch tv. Esp since the daughter would sit and complain through anything else. (The mom said that the upside of that was that she and her husband tried some new things talked about on the show, LOL. The mom is a good friend of mine also.) Do your girls have their stuff all over the house? Box up whatever is in the common areas. Have them keep their stuff in their own rooms - and leave much of your stuff alone if possible. Do the girls ever go on trips? Gfgbro used to come "home" to my folks every Christmas. And stay until sometime between March and May. He did like to take off for a few days (meaning 3 days to 3 weeks with NO notice of when he was returning). My mom packed all his stuff up a couple of years when he would do that. If they like to sleep in a room that isn't their bedroom, use it! On another thread I described some stuff my mom did to curb that when my bro did it as a kid. Painting his feet with tuna juice and locking the cat in was one thing. Painting his nails with a frosty champagne color and tossing all the remover was another. She did make sure his best friend told ALL gfgbro's friends about the nails. AND the guys on the construction crew he was working on. Another time she put strips of duct tape all over his hairy legs. If you REALLY want to make someone mad put RIT dye in their shampoo. If they use strawberry shampoo add red dye. Blue dye is great in head and shoulders, etc... This works best if they have light or bleached hair. If their job would object it could be a HUGE deal. Or if they wouldn't handle it well. You want them out of the house, not your life after all. You can wash all their clothes on HOT, or add bleach after the clothes are in. Make off the wall comments to their bfs and friends. Have you ever seen the movie "How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days" with Kate Hudson and Matthew McConaughy? Some of those ideas might work. Esp the one where she walks into poker night and makes the guy blow his nose because no one likes mr sniffles. I am willing to bet that looking over Step's house rules, thinking of the ideas in this thread, and pulling in your own creativity will work together to achieve your empty nest fairly soon. If you need other ideas you might watch the movie "Failure to Launch". Many hugs! ps. Start making them cover their phone bills, insurance, anything else you pay for and want to change. Just watch HOW you do it. [/QUOTE]
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