Today, I finally decided I had to go the probation office for the 18yo guy who was not suppose to be contacting my 15yo DGD. I have tried not to do it, because it seemed like they had stopped contact for a while. But, she kept getting drawn back in. It was not a healthy relationship.
I mentioned earlier that I gained access to her texting app on the phone. I woke up around 4:30 for a potty break and decided to check it. Logged on and saw all theses texts about sneaking out, who was picking her up, then getting another girl, then going to bail out XBF. He got picked up for driving on suspended license. I rush upstairs and find her lying in the bathtub, pretending to be asleep. She said she sleeps there when doesn't feel good. I left, then took screen shots of all those messages. On one message to XBF's best friend, she had typed XBF's email address, and below that, his middle name and 3 numbers. It dawned on me that it might be his facebook information. It was!
She kept denying she ever left the roof, but the messages contradict it. So Tuesday night, I slept in her room, and the next morning deactivated her phone. It would only work with wifi, and the school blocks social media sites. That night I told her she had her choice, get phone turned on, but plug it in downstairs from 10pm to 6am or keep it on wifi, and I would unplug wifi at bedtime. So after 1 day, she decided on phone, and promptly handed it over.
But, this morning she was FB messaging him. And at school, he sent messages to pick her up at 10am. She missed the rest of the day. I didn't find out til after 12 noon. Finally had enough and went to probation officer. Not sure if they have talked to him yet.
I admit I am worried about what will happen once he finds out. I am afraid DGD will get blamed for any jail time he might get. And that will make her more likely to self harm... Damned if you do, Damned if you don't...
KSM
I mentioned earlier that I gained access to her texting app on the phone. I woke up around 4:30 for a potty break and decided to check it. Logged on and saw all theses texts about sneaking out, who was picking her up, then getting another girl, then going to bail out XBF. He got picked up for driving on suspended license. I rush upstairs and find her lying in the bathtub, pretending to be asleep. She said she sleeps there when doesn't feel good. I left, then took screen shots of all those messages. On one message to XBF's best friend, she had typed XBF's email address, and below that, his middle name and 3 numbers. It dawned on me that it might be his facebook information. It was!
She kept denying she ever left the roof, but the messages contradict it. So Tuesday night, I slept in her room, and the next morning deactivated her phone. It would only work with wifi, and the school blocks social media sites. That night I told her she had her choice, get phone turned on, but plug it in downstairs from 10pm to 6am or keep it on wifi, and I would unplug wifi at bedtime. So after 1 day, she decided on phone, and promptly handed it over.
But, this morning she was FB messaging him. And at school, he sent messages to pick her up at 10am. She missed the rest of the day. I didn't find out til after 12 noon. Finally had enough and went to probation officer. Not sure if they have talked to him yet.
I admit I am worried about what will happen once he finds out. I am afraid DGD will get blamed for any jail time he might get. And that will make her more likely to self harm... Damned if you do, Damned if you don't...
KSM