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I think I may have lost my son today
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 734157" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I know what I wrote below is off the wall. I know your son cannot go to another country without you. But still....</p><p></p><p> I just googled in Spanish therapeutic boarding schools for adolescents (in Buenos Aires Argentina) because I know there they are free, or used to be. Even for non citizens. I have a phone number. </p><p></p><p>I know this sounds far fetched. And it is. But realities of your country's situation are fixed. Where you are will always have violent conditions. And it will always have a dearth of resources. That you have managed to assemble the treatment team you have is testimony to your love and ingenuity.</p><p></p><p>Given that this emergency situation with your son is now chronic, and he is not yet responding sufficiently that you are safe to live with him, we need to find a setting where he can live, and get treatment. On an ongoing way. He will not be able to return home for many months. The proclivity to harm has been ongoing. Neither medication, treatment, or behavioral interventions has worked thus far to give him control. This does not mean they won't. </p><p></p><p>I know you have a lot of responsibilities (as well as being in shock). But what about the idea of exploring what other places might or might not offer?</p><p></p><p>People travel to other countries all of the time for treatment. Mind you. I get it is usually sheiks and presidents and the shah of Iran. But why not? There might be reasonably priced therapeutic boarding schools. People everywhere have difficult children.</p><p></p><p>As I see it, there are these possibilities: (I put everything in, even the close to impossible.)</p><p></p><p>If you and his doctors think he will stay away from you, keep current treatment. Find foster home in your community.</p><p></p><p>Find therapeutic boarding school someplace else, where he can live.</p><p></p><p>Travel with him to a children's regional medical center where he can get comprehensive, in depth evaluation. But this is delimited by financial and insurance concerns. And seems to only be an option if a second citizenship offers benefits.</p><p></p><p>Has he seen a pediatric neurologist? There is a condition I remember hearing about where kids have mini seizures that give rise to aggressive behavior.</p><p></p><p>I know this is far fetched but have you googled his behaviors all together and seen what comes up. </p><p></p><p>I am so so sad you are dealing with this, And he has not thus far responded. He will. In time. But meanwhile there will be an answer for what to do in the meantime.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 734157, member: 18958"] I know what I wrote below is off the wall. I know your son cannot go to another country without you. But still.... I just googled in Spanish therapeutic boarding schools for adolescents (in Buenos Aires Argentina) because I know there they are free, or used to be. Even for non citizens. I have a phone number. I know this sounds far fetched. And it is. But realities of your country's situation are fixed. Where you are will always have violent conditions. And it will always have a dearth of resources. That you have managed to assemble the treatment team you have is testimony to your love and ingenuity. Given that this emergency situation with your son is now chronic, and he is not yet responding sufficiently that you are safe to live with him, we need to find a setting where he can live, and get treatment. On an ongoing way. He will not be able to return home for many months. The proclivity to harm has been ongoing. Neither medication, treatment, or behavioral interventions has worked thus far to give him control. This does not mean they won't. I know you have a lot of responsibilities (as well as being in shock). But what about the idea of exploring what other places might or might not offer? People travel to other countries all of the time for treatment. Mind you. I get it is usually sheiks and presidents and the shah of Iran. But why not? There might be reasonably priced therapeutic boarding schools. People everywhere have difficult children. As I see it, there are these possibilities: (I put everything in, even the close to impossible.) If you and his doctors think he will stay away from you, keep current treatment. Find foster home in your community. Find therapeutic boarding school someplace else, where he can live. Travel with him to a children's regional medical center where he can get comprehensive, in depth evaluation. But this is delimited by financial and insurance concerns. And seems to only be an option if a second citizenship offers benefits. Has he seen a pediatric neurologist? There is a condition I remember hearing about where kids have mini seizures that give rise to aggressive behavior. I know this is far fetched but have you googled his behaviors all together and seen what comes up. I am so so sad you are dealing with this, And he has not thus far responded. He will. In time. But meanwhile there will be an answer for what to do in the meantime. [/QUOTE]
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