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<blockquote data-quote="confuzzled" data-source="post: 382491" data-attributes="member: 8831"><p>are there certain non-negotiables that he routinely challenges?</p><p> </p><p>maybe it would help to make a written list of "house rules" and see if that helps him---something more concrete and visual might help. obviously, it would be impossible to list everything he challenges, lol...i'd lean more toward the big stuff, and areas in which there is the most difficulty. sounds pretty basic, i know, but lots of kids need to see it in writing to really have it hit home, and lots of kids need that absolute consistency and anticipation of what needs to happen.</p><p> </p><p>that being said, tread carefully on things that *might* have a variable, like bedtime, if you are say, flexible on sat night. if so, that would be two distinct "rules"</p><p> </p><p>1.) bedtime on sunday-friday is at 9pm with lights out/electronics off (or whatever)</p><p>2) bedtime on sat is at 10pm with extra time earned for good behavior (bad wording, but you get the idea--and its more to give you some flexibility if something comes up, like you are out later than usual and cant get him to bed at exactly 9pm).</p><p> </p><p>could be very basic, could be elaborate--i'd lean toward pretty basic to start, and then add/adjust accordingly.</p><p> </p><p>it will also help to take *YOU* out of the equation--you can just point and say, but the <em>rule is</em> (whatever).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="confuzzled, post: 382491, member: 8831"] are there certain non-negotiables that he routinely challenges? maybe it would help to make a written list of "house rules" and see if that helps him---something more concrete and visual might help. obviously, it would be impossible to list everything he challenges, lol...i'd lean more toward the big stuff, and areas in which there is the most difficulty. sounds pretty basic, i know, but lots of kids need to see it in writing to really have it hit home, and lots of kids need that absolute consistency and anticipation of what needs to happen. that being said, tread carefully on things that *might* have a variable, like bedtime, if you are say, flexible on sat night. if so, that would be two distinct "rules" 1.) bedtime on sunday-friday is at 9pm with lights out/electronics off (or whatever) 2) bedtime on sat is at 10pm with extra time earned for good behavior (bad wording, but you get the idea--and its more to give you some flexibility if something comes up, like you are out later than usual and cant get him to bed at exactly 9pm). could be very basic, could be elaborate--i'd lean toward pretty basic to start, and then add/adjust accordingly. it will also help to take *YOU* out of the equation--you can just point and say, but the [I]rule is[/I] (whatever). [/QUOTE]
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