Don't know if any of you remember the "issue" I had with my mother about difficult child's diagnosis and her conviction that I am lying about it and that my "failure to discipline him" is the cause of everything that's wrong with him. Anyhow, I still don't talk to her unless I have to (when the boys are with me). She has yet to apologize for the things she said (she has nothing to apologize for because she was just being "honest") and I know she never will. Yesterday, I get a short and sweet email from her asking for the boys' social security numbers. Now, I know she thinks I'm stupid, but I am positive that she is taking me off as one of her beneficiaries on her life insurance policies and retirement accounts. There is absolutely no other reason she would need this info. There are 3 of us kids. My youngest sister(#3) was disowned when she walked out on her husband and kids and moved in with a sex offender after cleaning her EX out. We all stood behind EX and the kids. He did nothing wrong, it was all her. One day several months ago, Mom was complaining to me about how my younger sister (#2) doesn't talk to her much anymore. I let her vent and after a little while she said "I should just leave all my money to my grandkids". At the time, things were totally normal between us and we were having a normal conversation but suddenly I felt stabbed by this statement. #2 does not have any kids BUT so far, #2 is still a beneficiary. Now, I haven't talked to my mother for a couple months because of some things SHE did wrong and I get disowned. How sick is that? I was told years ago by a therapist that my mother was toxic. Boy, was she ever right.