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I think my easy child is turning into a difficult child
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 575744" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Geez, does your therapist think you should put up with your daughters disrespect of you, her rude, inappropriate entitled behavior to you until she is through this "phase?" I believe it's NEVER a good idea to allow ANYONE to treat us in any way but respectful and courteous. Your difficult child/easy child is no exception. People treat us the way we allow them to, and there is no reason you should allow her to treat you this way. Your fear that she will do what your mother did is giving her power to hurt you, don't let her do that. If she walks away from you it won't be because you set up boundaries for bad behavior, it will be for her own reasons, which you may never know. But you can't allow her to hold you hostage with this, you deserve to be treated much better then this. It's remarkable to me how much better my difficult child began treating me once I put a stop to the disrespect. Oddly she became very grateful for me after that too. Your girl is young and may be having a late rebellious stage, however, that does not give her permission to treat you with anything but respect and propriety. You deserve that, do not allow the guilt of your former difficult child years, or your fear that your daughter will abandon you like your mother did, allow her to act in inappropriate and disrespectful ways. In addition to hurting you, it gives her the idea that she can treat people that way, and she can, but others won't put up with it and she will have some serious life lessons if she does that. I know it's hard when they act so badly, but you've worked through your trials, there is no need to continue doing penance with your daughter now. Many hugs to you.............you deserve kindness and compassion and certainly respect.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 575744, member: 13542"] Geez, does your therapist think you should put up with your daughters disrespect of you, her rude, inappropriate entitled behavior to you until she is through this "phase?" I believe it's NEVER a good idea to allow ANYONE to treat us in any way but respectful and courteous. Your difficult child/easy child is no exception. People treat us the way we allow them to, and there is no reason you should allow her to treat you this way. Your fear that she will do what your mother did is giving her power to hurt you, don't let her do that. If she walks away from you it won't be because you set up boundaries for bad behavior, it will be for her own reasons, which you may never know. But you can't allow her to hold you hostage with this, you deserve to be treated much better then this. It's remarkable to me how much better my difficult child began treating me once I put a stop to the disrespect. Oddly she became very grateful for me after that too. Your girl is young and may be having a late rebellious stage, however, that does not give her permission to treat you with anything but respect and propriety. You deserve that, do not allow the guilt of your former difficult child years, or your fear that your daughter will abandon you like your mother did, allow her to act in inappropriate and disrespectful ways. In addition to hurting you, it gives her the idea that she can treat people that way, and she can, but others won't put up with it and she will have some serious life lessons if she does that. I know it's hard when they act so badly, but you've worked through your trials, there is no need to continue doing penance with your daughter now. Many hugs to you.............you deserve kindness and compassion and certainly respect. [/QUOTE]
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