My eight year old son was diagnosed with ADHD in first grade by pediatrician. Last year, after second grade, his therapist suggested a psychological evaluation which said he also had depression and should have follow-up with psychiatrist. Long story short... I went to his therapist today, for a private appointment, to get assistance with goals for his new 504 plan and all she told me (after almost 2 years of seeing her) is that he's a spoiled brat, annoying and has ODD who needs no accomodations because she doesn't believe he (or anyone else for that matter) has ADHD. My husband says dump her and find someone else, but I'm struggling with starting over again (after two previous therapists) just because I don't like her. I feel like, for the past three years, I have been spinning in circles trying to get someone to help me, and she does try, but her bluntness that I am the cause of his bad behavior has taken a toll on my own sanity. I came to this site for the first time today, looking for other people who have struggled every day with being a good parent. We all want good things for our children, but wanting and getting are not the same thing. So, I begin again with my terror of going into this meeting for a 504 feeling unprepared and wondering if I am doing the right thing looking for accomodations at all (is therapist right?) I'm treying not be an enabler of his poor behavior, but I just want him to be successful in school since I know he's capable, just not performing. Help!