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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 723767" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Gay is not a disorder nor would that lead to your son's behavior. Gay men are no more likely to have sexual disorders than men who are not gay. But It is scary that pedophelia is in the family. Are you sure he was not abused?</p><p></p><p>I am thinking that no book you let him read caused this. Sexual disorders, other than if he had been sexually abused, sometimes can not be explained.</p><p></p><p>You are getting your son help, which is the best thing you can do. In the meantime I would not allow him to be alone with any younger siblings or any younger or smaller kids at all. If he touches or looks inappropriately at a neighbor child, you are talking about the police even at age 15. Dont take that chance, even if you dont think he acted on it. You cant know for sure.</p><p></p><p>The child we adopted molested my two babies. They were too afraid of his threats to kill us all if they told us about him to let us know. And we had also talked to them about good and bad touches and how Daddy and Mommy would always believe them if they told us someone touched them wrong so please tell us if anyone did. But he scared them too much in many ways...they really believed he would kill us all if they told us.</p><p></p><p>I have told my gruesome story many times here and am not up to repeating it now, but Im sure you could find it in the archives. I am very quick to warn parents to stop alone time contact between older kids who have sexual problems and their other kids. It is mandatory to protect the other children from him. Nobody knows what he is capable of doing or what he may have already done. And, no, it is not a given than ANY child will tell you if he hurt him/her. Shame, fear, terror and protecting someone they love can stop them. He must be watched at all times. No going outside with his siblings alone. No alone time at all.</p><p></p><p>If he shares a room, move the other kid and lock all the bedroom doors at night. He should not have access to his siblings while you are asleep.</p><p></p><p>If he were mine, knowing what I now know but didnt know before, I would remove his bedroom door so that you can see what he is doing at all times. I would not allow this son to own a cell phone or access the internet.</p><p></p><p>You cant cure him alone, but you can get him help, diminish temptation and protect all of your other kids. And stop blaming yourself. You offered him a great life. Sometimes unexplainable things happen. This is not on you. It just is. Your other kids are fine. You are good parents.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 723767, member: 1550"] Gay is not a disorder nor would that lead to your son's behavior. Gay men are no more likely to have sexual disorders than men who are not gay. But It is scary that pedophelia is in the family. Are you sure he was not abused? I am thinking that no book you let him read caused this. Sexual disorders, other than if he had been sexually abused, sometimes can not be explained. You are getting your son help, which is the best thing you can do. In the meantime I would not allow him to be alone with any younger siblings or any younger or smaller kids at all. If he touches or looks inappropriately at a neighbor child, you are talking about the police even at age 15. Dont take that chance, even if you dont think he acted on it. You cant know for sure. The child we adopted molested my two babies. They were too afraid of his threats to kill us all if they told us about him to let us know. And we had also talked to them about good and bad touches and how Daddy and Mommy would always believe them if they told us someone touched them wrong so please tell us if anyone did. But he scared them too much in many ways...they really believed he would kill us all if they told us. I have told my gruesome story many times here and am not up to repeating it now, but Im sure you could find it in the archives. I am very quick to warn parents to stop alone time contact between older kids who have sexual problems and their other kids. It is mandatory to protect the other children from him. Nobody knows what he is capable of doing or what he may have already done. And, no, it is not a given than ANY child will tell you if he hurt him/her. Shame, fear, terror and protecting someone they love can stop them. He must be watched at all times. No going outside with his siblings alone. No alone time at all. If he shares a room, move the other kid and lock all the bedroom doors at night. He should not have access to his siblings while you are asleep. If he were mine, knowing what I now know but didnt know before, I would remove his bedroom door so that you can see what he is doing at all times. I would not allow this son to own a cell phone or access the internet. You cant cure him alone, but you can get him help, diminish temptation and protect all of your other kids. And stop blaming yourself. You offered him a great life. Sometimes unexplainable things happen. This is not on you. It just is. Your other kids are fine. You are good parents. [/QUOTE]
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