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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 205244" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>Heather, dear one, you're giving mr PTSD. I hated those non-stop verbal attacks. It took me years to stop them. There is no way mine would stop but I did. Once I told her that enough was enough (and, yes, shut up! Just shut up!), I would literally quit listening. She could yammer all she wanted but I would put on music with-earphones of some sort, grab a book and absolutely refuse to respond. If she escalated to violence towards property or me, I simply called the police. I also made the rule that if you don't stop when you're told to, you lose all rights to use the computer or watch television the following day. It took awhile, but it did sink in. She could be as resentful as she wanted but she could not argue, attack, accuse. She could not slam things. She could not stomp in the house. She could not attack another thing but the pillows in her room. </p><p> </p><p>She may have wanted to say more but if I told her enough was enough and put my palm up for emphasis, she now quits. One thing I learned was that when she was in this mode there was no reasoning with her. Anything I said was negated and usually used to fuel her arguments. Four hours of the same verbiage was just too much.</p><p> </p><p>Personally, I'm glad you finally told Wynter to just shut up. She needs to start learning the world does not revolve around her. She doesn't have a choice of whether she goes to the doctor or not. She doesn't have a choice of whether she takes her medications. She doesn't have a choice on doing certain chores. She even actually doesn't have a choice on the clothing she wears. These are all under your control and it is up to you to what you want to let her do or not do. Your not-so-little little one needs to start realizing this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 205244, member: 3626"] Heather, dear one, you're giving mr PTSD. I hated those non-stop verbal attacks. It took me years to stop them. There is no way mine would stop but I did. Once I told her that enough was enough (and, yes, shut up! Just shut up!), I would literally quit listening. She could yammer all she wanted but I would put on music with-earphones of some sort, grab a book and absolutely refuse to respond. If she escalated to violence towards property or me, I simply called the police. I also made the rule that if you don't stop when you're told to, you lose all rights to use the computer or watch television the following day. It took awhile, but it did sink in. She could be as resentful as she wanted but she could not argue, attack, accuse. She could not slam things. She could not stomp in the house. She could not attack another thing but the pillows in her room. She may have wanted to say more but if I told her enough was enough and put my palm up for emphasis, she now quits. One thing I learned was that when she was in this mode there was no reasoning with her. Anything I said was negated and usually used to fuel her arguments. Four hours of the same verbiage was just too much. Personally, I'm glad you finally told Wynter to just shut up. She needs to start learning the world does not revolve around her. She doesn't have a choice of whether she goes to the doctor or not. She doesn't have a choice of whether she takes her medications. She doesn't have a choice on doing certain chores. She even actually doesn't have a choice on the clothing she wears. These are all under your control and it is up to you to what you want to let her do or not do. Your not-so-little little one needs to start realizing this. [/QUOTE]
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