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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 205292" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Well done! That sense of entitlement is a typical teen thing but gets ramped up with the difficult child component. We still get it with easy child 2/difficult child 2, but since she no longer lives at home... the other thing I noticed while spending the day with her yesterday, was her biting sarcasm about places, people or things that do not meet with her approval. I had to pull her up a couple of times and correct her when she began to get "over the top" with dislike of something, and WOULD NOT shut up. One suggested reception place - apparently the light fittings look like someone with projectile vomiting successfully filled these giant alabaster bowls hanging from the ceiling and the result was left to fester. She has been to a party in the place once before, there were other problems with that party that were not the venue's fault, so because she had a lousy time (genuinely not her fault back then - but no matter) then the venue was not going to be worthy of consideration.</p><p></p><p>I wasn't upset - not at A$200 a head anyway. I did remind her that if SHE had felt like that about those light fittings four years earlier, then chances are other people had expressed dislike also and places like that change their decor every few years anyway.</p><p></p><p>If you ever saw the TV series "Blackadder" and the very clever way the character would describe things in disparaging terms - easy child 2/difficult child 2 seems to have taken lessons. Certainly she could write the scripts; could ad-lib the scripts. I found it difficult to watch the later episodes of Blackadder when it became too much like easy child 2/difficult child 2 in critical mode.</p><p></p><p>The trouble is - when our kids get to an age when their peers have more influence on them than family, we are struggling. WE mightn't find it amusing, but friends do and this reinforces the very behaviour we dislike.</p><p>Flash back a few weeks to easy child looking for wedding dresses, girlfriend and easy child 2/difficult child 2 in tow. girlfriend loudly admired a tulle confection covered with tiny, bright-coloured beads. easy child 2/difficult child 2 was loud in her condemnation. "Darling, it looks like the designer dropped it in a vat of cake sprinkles!"</p><p>This was said loudly enough for the designer to hear and I cringed - even though she was right. But somewhere, some time, some girl is going to WANT to look like her dress was dropped in a vat of cake sprinkles, so the designer will be laughing in the end.</p><p></p><p>We don't have a diagnosis for easy child 2/difficult child 2 that explains any of this. Crikey, I wish we did -it might be easier to rein her in if she didn't think what she said or did was normal. And therefore acceptable.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 205292, member: 1991"] Well done! That sense of entitlement is a typical teen thing but gets ramped up with the difficult child component. We still get it with easy child 2/difficult child 2, but since she no longer lives at home... the other thing I noticed while spending the day with her yesterday, was her biting sarcasm about places, people or things that do not meet with her approval. I had to pull her up a couple of times and correct her when she began to get "over the top" with dislike of something, and WOULD NOT shut up. One suggested reception place - apparently the light fittings look like someone with projectile vomiting successfully filled these giant alabaster bowls hanging from the ceiling and the result was left to fester. She has been to a party in the place once before, there were other problems with that party that were not the venue's fault, so because she had a lousy time (genuinely not her fault back then - but no matter) then the venue was not going to be worthy of consideration. I wasn't upset - not at A$200 a head anyway. I did remind her that if SHE had felt like that about those light fittings four years earlier, then chances are other people had expressed dislike also and places like that change their decor every few years anyway. If you ever saw the TV series "Blackadder" and the very clever way the character would describe things in disparaging terms - easy child 2/difficult child 2 seems to have taken lessons. Certainly she could write the scripts; could ad-lib the scripts. I found it difficult to watch the later episodes of Blackadder when it became too much like easy child 2/difficult child 2 in critical mode. The trouble is - when our kids get to an age when their peers have more influence on them than family, we are struggling. WE mightn't find it amusing, but friends do and this reinforces the very behaviour we dislike. Flash back a few weeks to easy child looking for wedding dresses, girlfriend and easy child 2/difficult child 2 in tow. girlfriend loudly admired a tulle confection covered with tiny, bright-coloured beads. easy child 2/difficult child 2 was loud in her condemnation. "Darling, it looks like the designer dropped it in a vat of cake sprinkles!" This was said loudly enough for the designer to hear and I cringed - even though she was right. But somewhere, some time, some girl is going to WANT to look like her dress was dropped in a vat of cake sprinkles, so the designer will be laughing in the end. We don't have a diagnosis for easy child 2/difficult child 2 that explains any of this. Crikey, I wish we did -it might be easier to rein her in if she didn't think what she said or did was normal. And therefore acceptable. Marg [/QUOTE]
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