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I told my son to leave again. After 24 hours. What am I doing wrong?
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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 660727" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>Oh Copa, I'm so sorry you are going thru this. It sounds like 2 on 1 at times, with M enabling your son. </p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>This actually makes a bit of sense. I mean, YOU have to develop boundaries and stick to them. He is in and you give him some latitude until he's violated the rules or he's out. But once he's out, he needs to stay out until you see REAL, POSITIVE CHANGE. </p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>HEY! I resemble that remark. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> But, you have read me the riot act a few times for it...so back at ya! Really...if it were me writing your post and you responding, what would you say to me. We all know the answers Copa...we just have such a hard time applying them to ourselves. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/hugs.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":hugs:" title="hugs :hugs:" data-shortname=":hugs:" /></p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>Now I see the resemblance. You know, when all this started with my son, I wondered if it wasn't because Jabber and I loved each other too much! If we hadn't been so into each other, would our son have been happier and better adjusted. </p><p> </p><p>Really? Did my son turn out poorly because of how much I loved my husband. That's kind of nuts. </p><p> </p><p>There are actually a LOT of trustworthy parents in the world. Most of them have trustworthy children. A parent doesn't make their child "confused" by showing them honest, hardworking, responsible, honorable examples. </p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>It occurs to me your differences with M on the subject of your son may be cultural. Some cultures give "kids" a lot more latitude and consider them children a lot longer. I'm sorry, I don't remember how old your son is, but could it be that M still sees him as a "young" man...one that still needs to be taught and shaped into an adult? </p><p> </p><p>I hope this gets better for you Copa.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 660727, member: 17309"] Oh Copa, I'm so sorry you are going thru this. It sounds like 2 on 1 at times, with M enabling your son. This actually makes a bit of sense. I mean, YOU have to develop boundaries and stick to them. He is in and you give him some latitude until he's violated the rules or he's out. But once he's out, he needs to stay out until you see REAL, POSITIVE CHANGE. HEY! I resemble that remark. ;) But, you have read me the riot act a few times for it...so back at ya! Really...if it were me writing your post and you responding, what would you say to me. We all know the answers Copa...we just have such a hard time applying them to ourselves. :hugs: Now I see the resemblance. You know, when all this started with my son, I wondered if it wasn't because Jabber and I loved each other too much! If we hadn't been so into each other, would our son have been happier and better adjusted. Really? Did my son turn out poorly because of how much I loved my husband. That's kind of nuts. There are actually a LOT of trustworthy parents in the world. Most of them have trustworthy children. A parent doesn't make their child "confused" by showing them honest, hardworking, responsible, honorable examples. It occurs to me your differences with M on the subject of your son may be cultural. Some cultures give "kids" a lot more latitude and consider them children a lot longer. I'm sorry, I don't remember how old your son is, but could it be that M still sees him as a "young" man...one that still needs to be taught and shaped into an adult? I hope this gets better for you Copa. [/QUOTE]
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