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<blockquote data-quote="Abbey" data-source="post: 184953" data-attributes="member: 179"><p>My last 2 cents.</p><p></p><p>Susan, I've been where you are. You REALLY WANT your kid (young <strong>man</strong>) to succeed, but <strong>he</strong> doesn't want it. You know the old saying, you can lead a horse to water but can't make him drink.</p><p></p><p><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="color: Red"><strong>HE'S 24 for God's sake.</strong></span></span></p><p></p><p>There are shelters, parks you can sleep in, thrift stores you can buy a blanket for $1. He wouldn't be the first person to hussle for a buck to buy that blanket. It's not pretty, but it's called hitting rock bottom. As long as you give him a soft place to land, he'll never hit that bottom and you'll continue to be frustrated and hurt and he'll continue on his path of luxury.</p><p></p><p>It comes down to two choices.</p><p></p><p>#1 - I am willing to be abused by my son, but I won't complain about it anymore.</p><p></p><p>#2 - I will no longer be willing to be abused by my son and accept ALL consequences that might result from making that choice.</p><p></p><p>The second is a hard pill to swallow as we know the consequences can be very bad. At some point you need to think about the long term and YOUR life.</p><p></p><p>Personally, I chose #2 fully knowing that at any day I would get the call that J OD'd or shot someone. I'm at the point where I can live with that. He wasn't ready for help.</p><p></p><p>Abbey</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Abbey, post: 184953, member: 179"] My last 2 cents. Susan, I've been where you are. You REALLY WANT your kid (young [B]man[/B]) to succeed, but [B]he[/B] doesn't want it. You know the old saying, you can lead a horse to water but can't make him drink. [SIZE=4][COLOR=Red][B]HE'S 24 for God's sake.[/B][/COLOR][/SIZE] There are shelters, parks you can sleep in, thrift stores you can buy a blanket for $1. He wouldn't be the first person to hussle for a buck to buy that blanket. It's not pretty, but it's called hitting rock bottom. As long as you give him a soft place to land, he'll never hit that bottom and you'll continue to be frustrated and hurt and he'll continue on his path of luxury. It comes down to two choices. #1 - I am willing to be abused by my son, but I won't complain about it anymore. #2 - I will no longer be willing to be abused by my son and accept ALL consequences that might result from making that choice. The second is a hard pill to swallow as we know the consequences can be very bad. At some point you need to think about the long term and YOUR life. Personally, I chose #2 fully knowing that at any day I would get the call that J OD'd or shot someone. I'm at the point where I can live with that. He wasn't ready for help. Abbey [/QUOTE]
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