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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 20677" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>Well...sigh.</p><p></p><p>Doesnt sound like a productive meeting. </p><p></p><p>I have been at meetings such as this and they are hard to handle but you have to keep your wits about you. What I always did was take a legal pad with me on which I had some facts jotted down. These were things I wanted to make sure I got across. Then I could always make sure I took notes about what was talked about in the meeting too. I could also doodle to keep cool. </p><p></p><p>The foster mother attacking you sounds like she was defensive or coming from a position that she doesnt know all the facts. You have to rise above that and not argue back with her...keep cool and just state the facts. If necessary, just address your comments to the social workers or the supervisors. </p><p></p><p>I would bring up your sons reunification goal list that he wrote up. That was a good thing and gives you a starting point for a plan. Talk about his wanting a job, and whatever else the good things are in his life. The positives. How you want to foster those things. </p><p></p><p>It doesnt surprise me that your son acted the way he did in the meeting, he is 15 and showing emotion is just not cool. I cant tell you how many times my kid acted like that in meetings but was his lovable self when we were alone. They have to act like things dont matter to them when around other people.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 20677, member: 1514"] Well...sigh. Doesnt sound like a productive meeting. I have been at meetings such as this and they are hard to handle but you have to keep your wits about you. What I always did was take a legal pad with me on which I had some facts jotted down. These were things I wanted to make sure I got across. Then I could always make sure I took notes about what was talked about in the meeting too. I could also doodle to keep cool. The foster mother attacking you sounds like she was defensive or coming from a position that she doesnt know all the facts. You have to rise above that and not argue back with her...keep cool and just state the facts. If necessary, just address your comments to the social workers or the supervisors. I would bring up your sons reunification goal list that he wrote up. That was a good thing and gives you a starting point for a plan. Talk about his wanting a job, and whatever else the good things are in his life. The positives. How you want to foster those things. It doesnt surprise me that your son acted the way he did in the meeting, he is 15 and showing emotion is just not cool. I cant tell you how many times my kid acted like that in meetings but was his lovable self when we were alone. They have to act like things dont matter to them when around other people. [/QUOTE]
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