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<blockquote data-quote="GoingNorth" data-source="post: 316452" data-attributes="member: 1963"><p>Best wishes! I hope what is best for you both happens as it should.</p><p></p><p>husband and I went through this when we were in our twenties. As it turns out, he was very fertile, the problem was that I, like you, had a combination of disorders that rendered me sterile.</p><p></p><p>We lived in Germany at the time and looked into IVF, but at that time they implanted four embryos and German law didn't allow for selective termination (plus, I always wondered how you chose which one to terminate)</p><p></p><p>When I got back to the states I discovered that there were corrective surgeries that might've been able to help me if done with artificial insemination from husband. At that time, the fertility specialist we were working with also found that both husband and I carried a lethal genetic disorder--any child we concieved would've had a fifty percent chance of having the disorder.</p><p></p><p>It had been quite a few years. I was getting my career off the ground stateside. husband was in school and working part time. Plus, we'd gotten used to not having children and really doubted if we'd be able to handle the demands a child would make on our lifestyle.</p><p></p><p>We were afraid we'd resent the child on some level. We honestly belived that no matter how good one is at 'faking it', children pick up on resentment and it can damage them very badly.</p><p></p><p>We chose to be childfree and lived a happy life together for many years.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="GoingNorth, post: 316452, member: 1963"] Best wishes! I hope what is best for you both happens as it should. husband and I went through this when we were in our twenties. As it turns out, he was very fertile, the problem was that I, like you, had a combination of disorders that rendered me sterile. We lived in Germany at the time and looked into IVF, but at that time they implanted four embryos and German law didn't allow for selective termination (plus, I always wondered how you chose which one to terminate) When I got back to the states I discovered that there were corrective surgeries that might've been able to help me if done with artificial insemination from husband. At that time, the fertility specialist we were working with also found that both husband and I carried a lethal genetic disorder--any child we concieved would've had a fifty percent chance of having the disorder. It had been quite a few years. I was getting my career off the ground stateside. husband was in school and working part time. Plus, we'd gotten used to not having children and really doubted if we'd be able to handle the demands a child would make on our lifestyle. We were afraid we'd resent the child on some level. We honestly belived that no matter how good one is at 'faking it', children pick up on resentment and it can damage them very badly. We chose to be childfree and lived a happy life together for many years. [/QUOTE]
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