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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 526280" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Wiz did totally the opposite of Billy, Janet. Anything violent and he was a total terrifying monster even at early ages. If it is okay on the computer or in his imagination then it is okay to do to people, esp mom and younger sibs. Same problem as Buddy with Disney movies and classic cartoons. Wiz once almost killed Jess when she was 2 by trying to drop a big rock on her like he saw in a Roadrunner/Wiley Coyote cartoon with Gpa. My dad was SOOOOOOOO upset over that because he just loved those old cartoons and to have Wiz use them to justify something that almost killed Jess (I managed to pull her out of the way as he brought a rock as big as her head down on her head!) just broke his heart. My dad claims to not remember it because it was so traumatic to him. </p><p></p><p>We also had TKD be a nightmare in spite of a super strict master who trained Olympic competitors and always stressed to never fight in reality and never use TKD to hurt someone. Wiz sat out of a LOT of classes because the instructor asked Jess if he had used those skills to hurt her and she or I said yes. It never made a dent.</p><p></p><p>the waiting periods are awful, but inevitable. At least you got the report. I am sending hugs and some extra armor to help you through.</p><p></p><p>I know you don't want to over-use the hospital and cops, but the more you use them the higher up on the priority list you go. PLEASE don't let fear of 'overuse' of those resources keep you from following through if you said you will do it. Not following through every single time is more damaging with an AS child who is violent than anything else. They wll then always expect this to be the time that you don't follow through. </p><p></p><p>As for the "I'm bored" stuff, we found that chores worked pretty well to stop the whining. NONE of my kids ESPECIALLY Wiz would EVER tell me they were bored because they KNEW they would end up with a chore. That was a pet peeve of mine - I hate the whining esp as they had tons of activities and projects and toys that were not electronic.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 526280, member: 1233"] Wiz did totally the opposite of Billy, Janet. Anything violent and he was a total terrifying monster even at early ages. If it is okay on the computer or in his imagination then it is okay to do to people, esp mom and younger sibs. Same problem as Buddy with Disney movies and classic cartoons. Wiz once almost killed Jess when she was 2 by trying to drop a big rock on her like he saw in a Roadrunner/Wiley Coyote cartoon with Gpa. My dad was SOOOOOOOO upset over that because he just loved those old cartoons and to have Wiz use them to justify something that almost killed Jess (I managed to pull her out of the way as he brought a rock as big as her head down on her head!) just broke his heart. My dad claims to not remember it because it was so traumatic to him. We also had TKD be a nightmare in spite of a super strict master who trained Olympic competitors and always stressed to never fight in reality and never use TKD to hurt someone. Wiz sat out of a LOT of classes because the instructor asked Jess if he had used those skills to hurt her and she or I said yes. It never made a dent. the waiting periods are awful, but inevitable. At least you got the report. I am sending hugs and some extra armor to help you through. I know you don't want to over-use the hospital and cops, but the more you use them the higher up on the priority list you go. PLEASE don't let fear of 'overuse' of those resources keep you from following through if you said you will do it. Not following through every single time is more damaging with an AS child who is violent than anything else. They wll then always expect this to be the time that you don't follow through. As for the "I'm bored" stuff, we found that chores worked pretty well to stop the whining. NONE of my kids ESPECIALLY Wiz would EVER tell me they were bored because they KNEW they would end up with a chore. That was a pet peeve of mine - I hate the whining esp as they had tons of activities and projects and toys that were not electronic. [/QUOTE]
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