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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 478818" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Steely, don't assume that only you see the world in such a perceptive way. Nobody is that special. However, you are probably more honest with yourself about what you observe compared to your mother, for example, who right now is undoubtedly locked into her grief. True, deep perception comes when you can really see how the world looks through another person's eyes. You know you have nailed this when your can predict what the person will do or say, and they do it. Until then - listen more and don't assume you have got it right. You may only think you have.</p><p></p><p>Also, just because someone is family does not mean they will always get along with you. Sometimes it's the reverse. We tend to take family more for granted, we tend to be more complacent with them. And as a result, we hurt family more readily than we often realise. </p><p></p><p>If you focus in on yourself and your own observations about what you see then you risk losing the real information the world is giving you.</p><p></p><p>Telling yourself you are perceptive, then announcing (even to yourself) your own analysis of a situation and privately declaring it to be correct, is self-fulfilling and not necessarily as accurate as you think. "I'm getting a negative vibe from her; she must really dislike me. I wish she liked me more, but if she is going to be so hateful then I won't talk to her." Self-fulfilling. An alternative option is, "I'm feeling that this person is not very forthcoming right now. I'll see what I can do to draw her out, if I can. Maybe she just needs someone to listen to her."</p><p>So just observe. Privately consider. But don't add any more layers of complication to it, don't consider your considerations because down that path lies confusion and too much introspection to be healthy for anyone. If you go round through ever decreasing concentric circles you can end up disappearing up your own fundamental orifice!</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 478818, member: 1991"] Steely, don't assume that only you see the world in such a perceptive way. Nobody is that special. However, you are probably more honest with yourself about what you observe compared to your mother, for example, who right now is undoubtedly locked into her grief. True, deep perception comes when you can really see how the world looks through another person's eyes. You know you have nailed this when your can predict what the person will do or say, and they do it. Until then - listen more and don't assume you have got it right. You may only think you have. Also, just because someone is family does not mean they will always get along with you. Sometimes it's the reverse. We tend to take family more for granted, we tend to be more complacent with them. And as a result, we hurt family more readily than we often realise. If you focus in on yourself and your own observations about what you see then you risk losing the real information the world is giving you. Telling yourself you are perceptive, then announcing (even to yourself) your own analysis of a situation and privately declaring it to be correct, is self-fulfilling and not necessarily as accurate as you think. "I'm getting a negative vibe from her; she must really dislike me. I wish she liked me more, but if she is going to be so hateful then I won't talk to her." Self-fulfilling. An alternative option is, "I'm feeling that this person is not very forthcoming right now. I'll see what I can do to draw her out, if I can. Maybe she just needs someone to listen to her." So just observe. Privately consider. But don't add any more layers of complication to it, don't consider your considerations because down that path lies confusion and too much introspection to be healthy for anyone. If you go round through ever decreasing concentric circles you can end up disappearing up your own fundamental orifice! Marg [/QUOTE]
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