Last night, difficult child was in such a mood. Came to our bedroom after bedtime and "unloaded" on us for at least an hour. All the previous hurts and disappointments and everything we do wrong. She informed us that we shouldn't give our normal offering to church and so we can spend it on things she wants to do or have. That it is just a waste of money. She thought sitting down to a homecooked meal as a family and eating together was too rigid. Wants to take her meal to her room and listen to music and eat by herself. She doesn't have friends at school, doesn't enjoy the kids at church, and I can tell she isn't charming at home either. So I know that we, school and church are not the problem... but of course, she feels like it is. I can't help it that her little sister enjoys school, has friends and activities that don't include difficult child. She was mad that husband and I went out for breakfast once this week (first time since school started!) and didn't do it on a weekend when she could come.
We are seeing a therapist and a ARNP. The ARNP lowered the medication she was on as it didn't seem helpful after increasing, and she was tired and cried often. She was on Seroquel XR 150mg in the evening. Now back to 100mg. Oh, and she has gained 9 pounds in 6 weeks on the medications. She has such an appetite and can't seem to get enough to eat. She has only been on Seroqel for abbout 7 weeks and the ARNP said it takes 6 weeks to get to treatment level. We have seen the neuropsychologist once (without J) and are waiting for further testing to get appoved by insurance.
I am going to NAMI classes and trying to learn how to respond better. In the past - I would lose my temper when she would lose hers. I have really been trying. Not sure what I can do. I know she is unhappy, but I also know that buying her things won't make her happy for long. We don't have an unlimited budget as husband and I retired after adopting her and her sister (our granddaughters) But we aren't complete fuddy duddies either. We took them on a cruise earlier this year. We have a decent house/cars/food probably because we make good choices, not because we make or have a lot of money and get all that we want. But, we have all that we need. I feel that we provide pretty well for them. Last week at the therapists, she complained that she has to wear the same 15 tops all the time! HUH??? I guess she thinks she shouldn't have to repeat clothing at school for a couple months at a time!
Also, we have a foreign exchange student living with us this year that difficult child really likes. It was supposed to be a temporary thing, but I think she will be here for the school year. She is our 13th exchange student... but the 2nd one that has lived with us since we adopted the girls. But she kind of dominates DFES time and tries to push little sis out of the picture so she has more one on one time with DFES. I guess difficult child is really emotionally needy.
So what do you guys do when your difficult child keeps complaining about how life isn't fair? I am just so tired of being unappreciated and being treated disrespectfully. Thanks for letting me vent.... KSM
We are seeing a therapist and a ARNP. The ARNP lowered the medication she was on as it didn't seem helpful after increasing, and she was tired and cried often. She was on Seroquel XR 150mg in the evening. Now back to 100mg. Oh, and she has gained 9 pounds in 6 weeks on the medications. She has such an appetite and can't seem to get enough to eat. She has only been on Seroqel for abbout 7 weeks and the ARNP said it takes 6 weeks to get to treatment level. We have seen the neuropsychologist once (without J) and are waiting for further testing to get appoved by insurance.
I am going to NAMI classes and trying to learn how to respond better. In the past - I would lose my temper when she would lose hers. I have really been trying. Not sure what I can do. I know she is unhappy, but I also know that buying her things won't make her happy for long. We don't have an unlimited budget as husband and I retired after adopting her and her sister (our granddaughters) But we aren't complete fuddy duddies either. We took them on a cruise earlier this year. We have a decent house/cars/food probably because we make good choices, not because we make or have a lot of money and get all that we want. But, we have all that we need. I feel that we provide pretty well for them. Last week at the therapists, she complained that she has to wear the same 15 tops all the time! HUH??? I guess she thinks she shouldn't have to repeat clothing at school for a couple months at a time!
Also, we have a foreign exchange student living with us this year that difficult child really likes. It was supposed to be a temporary thing, but I think she will be here for the school year. She is our 13th exchange student... but the 2nd one that has lived with us since we adopted the girls. But she kind of dominates DFES time and tries to push little sis out of the picture so she has more one on one time with DFES. I guess difficult child is really emotionally needy.
So what do you guys do when your difficult child keeps complaining about how life isn't fair? I am just so tired of being unappreciated and being treated disrespectfully. Thanks for letting me vent.... KSM
