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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 446920" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Are you able to apologise to him afterwards? It is an important lesson for kids, to realise their parents are fallible and also to learn, by seeing a parental example, how to apologise themselves.</p><p></p><p>"I'm sorry I was cross with you, I was tired and you seemed to be trying to be difficult. I know now you were not, I just misunderstood." </p><p></p><p>It's also good to praise him for being good. Tell him you are very glad he was seeming to be so relaxed, was so helpful and you really enjoyed his company.</p><p></p><p>Making praise unconditional is important. Too often we try to insert a lesson in there, and it greatly undermines and devalues any benefit. You should never say, "I am so happy to see you playing well with your cousins. Why can't you be like that all the time?"</p><p></p><p>Sometimes the best lessons are the simplest ones. "I love you. I love your good behaviour."</p><p></p><p>Enjoy your break. I find it interesting that he is so much happier, even in an environment that is obviously challenging in its lack of predictability. So he can handle change, and new things. I wonder why?</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 446920, member: 1991"] Are you able to apologise to him afterwards? It is an important lesson for kids, to realise their parents are fallible and also to learn, by seeing a parental example, how to apologise themselves. "I'm sorry I was cross with you, I was tired and you seemed to be trying to be difficult. I know now you were not, I just misunderstood." It's also good to praise him for being good. Tell him you are very glad he was seeming to be so relaxed, was so helpful and you really enjoyed his company. Making praise unconditional is important. Too often we try to insert a lesson in there, and it greatly undermines and devalues any benefit. You should never say, "I am so happy to see you playing well with your cousins. Why can't you be like that all the time?" Sometimes the best lessons are the simplest ones. "I love you. I love your good behaviour." Enjoy your break. I find it interesting that he is so much happier, even in an environment that is obviously challenging in its lack of predictability. So he can handle change, and new things. I wonder why? Marg [/QUOTE]
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