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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 447911" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Yes, I grew up like that too, Insane, though in my memory it was small groups of roughly same age children who used to disappear into the countryside without adults... I guess my point was that France is not like that but I really have got paranoid because of the not-good experiences in the village....</p><p>Generalisations are doubtless dangerous.</p><p>Well, we are now in Morocco and J is with his dad and various relatives at the family house in the mountains. This feels very strange and of course I am feeling a mixture of strangeness/guilt/worry, as though something is missing from me... I miss my little difficult child. I spoke to one of my ex sisters in law earlier and she said J and her son had been happily playing all day. Last night I spoke to him, his first night away, and he was in floods of tears saying he wanted me. He is little to be doing this. I only hope he will start to "forget" and re-adapt to the routine there.</p><p>J's difficulties reveal themselves even in Morocco (of course?) We spent the first night with friends who have a little boy of 7, who used to know J, and they got on okay most of the time but there were squabbles. J gets very heated and intense, turns quickly to quarrelling and disputes over toys, etc. Though of course he does also play normally and happily some of the time. Then we went to another ex sister in law, who has two kids to whom J is and was close - but even there there were "incidents" with him hitting them through over-exuberant play with a piece of plastic tube and a real championship crying whine he had over somthing that I could see shocked my ex sister in law and her husband somewhat. Spending time with little H, J's four year old cousin, I really see the difference between a difficult child and a easy child - he's so amenable and easy, you just have to ask him to do something and he immediately does it without protest, when he does cry it is brief and very soon over, he's totally laid back about sharing toys, etc. A whole different ball game. Had an interesting chat with my ex sister in law in which she said that in Morocco people didn't know about these conditions and never saw things in these terms - they just saw children who were naughty and turbulent or whatever... So what is new <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p>On the other hand, just to balance things out, J was really SO good and responsible on the travelling about we did in Morocco, in hot, uncomfortable buses. Listening to me, wanting to help, etc. And with such a ready charm and smiles for strangers, engaging with them in a way Moroccans find delightful... It's always going to be this way, I think, a strange blend of easy child and difficult child... </p><p>It's going to be a long five weeks...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 447911, member: 11227"] Yes, I grew up like that too, Insane, though in my memory it was small groups of roughly same age children who used to disappear into the countryside without adults... I guess my point was that France is not like that but I really have got paranoid because of the not-good experiences in the village.... Generalisations are doubtless dangerous. Well, we are now in Morocco and J is with his dad and various relatives at the family house in the mountains. This feels very strange and of course I am feeling a mixture of strangeness/guilt/worry, as though something is missing from me... I miss my little difficult child. I spoke to one of my ex sisters in law earlier and she said J and her son had been happily playing all day. Last night I spoke to him, his first night away, and he was in floods of tears saying he wanted me. He is little to be doing this. I only hope he will start to "forget" and re-adapt to the routine there. J's difficulties reveal themselves even in Morocco (of course?) We spent the first night with friends who have a little boy of 7, who used to know J, and they got on okay most of the time but there were squabbles. J gets very heated and intense, turns quickly to quarrelling and disputes over toys, etc. Though of course he does also play normally and happily some of the time. Then we went to another ex sister in law, who has two kids to whom J is and was close - but even there there were "incidents" with him hitting them through over-exuberant play with a piece of plastic tube and a real championship crying whine he had over somthing that I could see shocked my ex sister in law and her husband somewhat. Spending time with little H, J's four year old cousin, I really see the difference between a difficult child and a easy child - he's so amenable and easy, you just have to ask him to do something and he immediately does it without protest, when he does cry it is brief and very soon over, he's totally laid back about sharing toys, etc. A whole different ball game. Had an interesting chat with my ex sister in law in which she said that in Morocco people didn't know about these conditions and never saw things in these terms - they just saw children who were naughty and turbulent or whatever... So what is new :) On the other hand, just to balance things out, J was really SO good and responsible on the travelling about we did in Morocco, in hot, uncomfortable buses. Listening to me, wanting to help, etc. And with such a ready charm and smiles for strangers, engaging with them in a way Moroccans find delightful... It's always going to be this way, I think, a strange blend of easy child and difficult child... It's going to be a long five weeks... [/QUOTE]
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