about that whole, God won't give you anything you can't handle thing.
I haven't posted here in quite some time, but I thought I would give a non-difficult child update.
I think actually the last time I posted was earlier this year when my mom was sick, going through chemo treatments for secondary liver cancer. You all were so nice and king with your prayers, but God had a different plan. We lost her in June of this year. It has been so hard. I knew I might have to handle this in 20 years, but never dreamed it would happen now. She was just 60. I know she has went to her reward, but it is still so hard for me. I just miss her so much.
That being said, my dad is totally lost. He doesn't even know how to write a check, so I am paying his bills for him. The first time he had gone to the grocery store was six months ago.
My mom's mom and day, grandma and pop, are in their 80's. Pop is in the nursing home, and I am taking grandma every day to see him. Mom always did this, and now I am doing it. I have other family, but no one is really helping.
Then, a few months ago, my mom's oldest brother was diagnosed with Stage 4 lung cancer. His prognosis is not good. So, the chances are that my grandma and pop will lose two of their three kids in 6 months time. They are so sad it is hearbreaking.
Now, on to husband's family. difficult child is doing OK, but not that great. I posted in PE about all that. His sister, an adult difficult child, was put into a really great group home about a year ago. It is a very nice ranch style house that only has six women, who are all "difficult child's" about 50 years old. It is sad, but she was being violent to her mom, and mother in law is crippled anyway. She was trying to push her down the stairs, hitting her, etc. I had to turn the water hose on her last fall just to make her get off of her. It was getting very bad, so thank goodness we found this placement. There are two married couples that run the place, and it is a very, very good placement. Not "institutionalized" in any way. She has to help with chores and also work every day at the workcenter. She has actually adapted quite well. She comes home a couple of days a month.
But, husband's mom now had rapidy declining dementia. I am still trying to get husband to take charge of that situation, but so far not so good. She's getting lost and forgetting everything.
Are you tired yet?
Sigh, any good thoughts you could send our way would be appreciated.
Thanks.
tawnya
I haven't posted here in quite some time, but I thought I would give a non-difficult child update.
I think actually the last time I posted was earlier this year when my mom was sick, going through chemo treatments for secondary liver cancer. You all were so nice and king with your prayers, but God had a different plan. We lost her in June of this year. It has been so hard. I knew I might have to handle this in 20 years, but never dreamed it would happen now. She was just 60. I know she has went to her reward, but it is still so hard for me. I just miss her so much.
That being said, my dad is totally lost. He doesn't even know how to write a check, so I am paying his bills for him. The first time he had gone to the grocery store was six months ago.
My mom's mom and day, grandma and pop, are in their 80's. Pop is in the nursing home, and I am taking grandma every day to see him. Mom always did this, and now I am doing it. I have other family, but no one is really helping.
Then, a few months ago, my mom's oldest brother was diagnosed with Stage 4 lung cancer. His prognosis is not good. So, the chances are that my grandma and pop will lose two of their three kids in 6 months time. They are so sad it is hearbreaking.
Now, on to husband's family. difficult child is doing OK, but not that great. I posted in PE about all that. His sister, an adult difficult child, was put into a really great group home about a year ago. It is a very nice ranch style house that only has six women, who are all "difficult child's" about 50 years old. It is sad, but she was being violent to her mom, and mother in law is crippled anyway. She was trying to push her down the stairs, hitting her, etc. I had to turn the water hose on her last fall just to make her get off of her. It was getting very bad, so thank goodness we found this placement. There are two married couples that run the place, and it is a very, very good placement. Not "institutionalized" in any way. She has to help with chores and also work every day at the workcenter. She has actually adapted quite well. She comes home a couple of days a month.
But, husband's mom now had rapidy declining dementia. I am still trying to get husband to take charge of that situation, but so far not so good. She's getting lost and forgetting everything.
Are you tired yet?
Sigh, any good thoughts you could send our way would be appreciated.
Thanks.
tawnya