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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 627902" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Nancy, I have a mood disorder and anxiety and when things get too stressful I get overwhelmed like you. I really have to take good care of myself...nutritionally, exercise-wise, sleeping well...and peeling back my obligations to others. I have no choice if I don't want to become dysfunctional. You need to take care of yourself too. You can not keep everyone else going. Look what it is doing to you.</p><p></p><p>I don't recall your entire story, but if your grown kids are still living with you and giving you grief, it is time to take a time out even if that means going to hotel or a kind friend's house. Anyone who takes care of everyone but herself/himself, and puts himself last, will eventually find his mind and body going to pieces, especially if he/she has any sort of mental health issue. It is our duty to know when the stress is too much and we have to tell our loved ones that for now they must take care of themselves. </p><p></p><p>I hope your appointment is a good one. If you are on medications, make sure you are taking them. I find it helpful to see a therapist at least twice a month, even when things are going well. I call it my tune up. </p><p></p><p>As I was writing to you, I just got a call from 36 and I know what he wants and the thought of talking to him just made my stomach clench with dread. There is more drama in his life and soon to be in mine if I allow it. I had a stressful day. I took Jumper to college and she signed up for her classes. It's a long drive. It was a long wait to get in to see the counselor. It is sad to me that she is now grown up,w hich is foolish, but my problem that I need to get over. I feel slightly down and I don't want it to spiral. Tonight 36 is going to face his current self-made crisis alone, even if I have to shut down the cell phone so that I can't see/hear him calling me. If 36 can stress me out this badly and he lives two states away, I can only imagine a difficult child living with me <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> </p><p></p><p>Take good care of you for now and put others on hold. Maybe write in a journal. THAT helps me too.....when I remember to do it <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> ANd take care. Let us know how the appointment goes tomorrow.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 627902, member: 1550"] Nancy, I have a mood disorder and anxiety and when things get too stressful I get overwhelmed like you. I really have to take good care of myself...nutritionally, exercise-wise, sleeping well...and peeling back my obligations to others. I have no choice if I don't want to become dysfunctional. You need to take care of yourself too. You can not keep everyone else going. Look what it is doing to you. I don't recall your entire story, but if your grown kids are still living with you and giving you grief, it is time to take a time out even if that means going to hotel or a kind friend's house. Anyone who takes care of everyone but herself/himself, and puts himself last, will eventually find his mind and body going to pieces, especially if he/she has any sort of mental health issue. It is our duty to know when the stress is too much and we have to tell our loved ones that for now they must take care of themselves. I hope your appointment is a good one. If you are on medications, make sure you are taking them. I find it helpful to see a therapist at least twice a month, even when things are going well. I call it my tune up. As I was writing to you, I just got a call from 36 and I know what he wants and the thought of talking to him just made my stomach clench with dread. There is more drama in his life and soon to be in mine if I allow it. I had a stressful day. I took Jumper to college and she signed up for her classes. It's a long drive. It was a long wait to get in to see the counselor. It is sad to me that she is now grown up,w hich is foolish, but my problem that I need to get over. I feel slightly down and I don't want it to spiral. Tonight 36 is going to face his current self-made crisis alone, even if I have to shut down the cell phone so that I can't see/hear him calling me. If 36 can stress me out this badly and he lives two states away, I can only imagine a difficult child living with me :) Take good care of you for now and put others on hold. Maybe write in a journal. THAT helps me too.....when I remember to do it :) ANd take care. Let us know how the appointment goes tomorrow. [/QUOTE]
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