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<blockquote data-quote="totoro" data-source="post: 259044" data-attributes="member: 3155"><p>Well I know for me and for K, and I hate this and most people around me, (husband) hated it...</p><p>We needed the triggers to be taken away as much as possible in the beginning. </p><p>I need and I see it in K a lot, to have the triggers be gone.</p><p>I then can get stable, medication wise, mentally, etc. </p><p>The big thing is the feeling of control not in a controlling way, but like you have control of yourself and your environment because for most of us we feel very out of control a lot of the time.</p><p></p><p>The rages, the agitation, the inability to sleep...</p><p>It is all loss of control, which causes a lot of the issues and lead to alot of the instability. </p><p>This is what we have found at least. </p><p>Then once K or I am stable, we both take criticism and can handle much more stress.</p><p>The triggers are easier to identify, we both can be told that we are getting elevated and not freak out so much.</p><p></p><p>K obviously is still learning a lot. but even last night, her medications are starting to need tweaking, but we have been working on her triggers a bunch, so her being tired is a huge trigger. </p><p>I was trying to explain to her that she needs to slow down when brushing her teeth. husband is also out of town.</p><p>She started slamming things, went into her room locked the door. screaming hitting herself. i had to walk away, then i came back in she was screaming at me, but I just grabbed her and made her talk to me. </p><p>I took her kept saying what did we talk about with your psychiatrist? </p><p></p><p>Finally she heard me, she was able to control her anger, but sunk into depression and finally fell asleep. </p><p>It is a start... and she is still emotional this a.m. which is common. So I have to watch her and try to watch the triggers. </p><p>Right now she is in a mixed state which stinks, so I am gingerly being strict, but not pushing it. She wants everything NOW but can't focus... and is depressed also. </p><p></p><p>So these are the times going to a movie or video games... and trying to get her to go for a walk. </p><p>I basically have to have tons if ideas. </p><p></p><p>I don't know about ideas for a teen boy! YIKES</p><p></p><p>You are awesome for doing this!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="totoro, post: 259044, member: 3155"] Well I know for me and for K, and I hate this and most people around me, (husband) hated it... We needed the triggers to be taken away as much as possible in the beginning. I need and I see it in K a lot, to have the triggers be gone. I then can get stable, medication wise, mentally, etc. The big thing is the feeling of control not in a controlling way, but like you have control of yourself and your environment because for most of us we feel very out of control a lot of the time. The rages, the agitation, the inability to sleep... It is all loss of control, which causes a lot of the issues and lead to alot of the instability. This is what we have found at least. Then once K or I am stable, we both take criticism and can handle much more stress. The triggers are easier to identify, we both can be told that we are getting elevated and not freak out so much. K obviously is still learning a lot. but even last night, her medications are starting to need tweaking, but we have been working on her triggers a bunch, so her being tired is a huge trigger. I was trying to explain to her that she needs to slow down when brushing her teeth. husband is also out of town. She started slamming things, went into her room locked the door. screaming hitting herself. i had to walk away, then i came back in she was screaming at me, but I just grabbed her and made her talk to me. I took her kept saying what did we talk about with your psychiatrist? Finally she heard me, she was able to control her anger, but sunk into depression and finally fell asleep. It is a start... and she is still emotional this a.m. which is common. So I have to watch her and try to watch the triggers. Right now she is in a mixed state which stinks, so I am gingerly being strict, but not pushing it. She wants everything NOW but can't focus... and is depressed also. So these are the times going to a movie or video games... and trying to get her to go for a walk. I basically have to have tons if ideas. I don't know about ideas for a teen boy! YIKES You are awesome for doing this! [/QUOTE]
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