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<blockquote data-quote="Stella" data-source="post: 259394" data-attributes="member: 6837"><p>One tip i have used for de-escalation - reverse pyschology!!! One of difficult child's triggers in boredom, so she will come home from playing outside once her friends are gone in and will start screaming "there's nothing to do" over and over until she's worked herself up into hysterics. Nothing I suggest ever appeases her, even If i suggest us doing something together. So...now when she comes home like that I will say "Well you're not watching TV because I am watching something at the moment". Straight away she will shout "NO, I AM" and she will grab the remote and sit down and watch TV for half and hour before bed-time. This has become a routine for her now but it works perfectly in getting her to calm down before she goes to bed!! She thinks she has gained control so she's happy with that when really I am getting her to do what I want which is calm down!!!!</p><p> </p><p>I do think distraction is the key. I have tried ignorning but as somebody on here said in another post - ignoring can be dangerous and her anxiety level just builds and builds until I answer her and can cause a huge explosion.</p><p> </p><p>Reverse Psychology for the ODD difficult child - try it!! lol.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Stella, post: 259394, member: 6837"] One tip i have used for de-escalation - reverse pyschology!!! One of difficult child's triggers in boredom, so she will come home from playing outside once her friends are gone in and will start screaming "there's nothing to do" over and over until she's worked herself up into hysterics. Nothing I suggest ever appeases her, even If i suggest us doing something together. So...now when she comes home like that I will say "Well you're not watching TV because I am watching something at the moment". Straight away she will shout "NO, I AM" and she will grab the remote and sit down and watch TV for half and hour before bed-time. This has become a routine for her now but it works perfectly in getting her to calm down before she goes to bed!! She thinks she has gained control so she's happy with that when really I am getting her to do what I want which is calm down!!!! I do think distraction is the key. I have tried ignorning but as somebody on here said in another post - ignoring can be dangerous and her anxiety level just builds and builds until I answer her and can cause a huge explosion. Reverse Psychology for the ODD difficult child - try it!! lol. [/QUOTE]
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