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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 235498" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>Hi Alicia,</p><p>welcome.</p><p>I do not know your son's developmental age, but let's assume he's a lot like our kids, say, 2-3 yrs younger than his chronological age.</p><p>Break chores down into bite-sized pieces.</p><p>Don't just say, "Clean your room." It will overwhelm him and ensure a rage.</p><p>Say, "Today we're going to clean your room. I will help you. That means I supervise."</p><p>(For yrs, I told my son I'd supervise and he had no idea what I meant!)</p><p>CLEAN ROOM</p><p>Pick up all dirty socks and put in laundry basket in your room (give him a basket)</p><p>Pick up all dirty underwear and put in laundry basket in your room</p><p>Pick up all dirty shirts (tshirts and collared shirts) " " "</p><p>Pick up all dirty pants and shorts " "</p><p>Take basket to laundry room</p><p> </p><p>Get the idea?</p><p> </p><p>I like to put my son's list in the kitchen and tape it to the cupboard. I used to put it on the microwave but he doesn't use it early in the day any more.</p><p> </p><p>Also, do not expect your son to do this willingly. You're going to have to reward him. Give him M&Ms or a magazine as a reward.</p><p> </p><p>We had to strip my son's room of everything but a mattress in order to get him to respect us. Not that he really does, but that he knows we mean business.</p><p>I would suggest stripping your son's room when he's not home.</p><p> </p><p>Put everything in the garage under lock and key. He has to earn back everything.</p><p>It will make it a heck of a lot easier for him to clean him room! </p><p> </p><p> Then you sit down and in a calm voice, explain that he is part of the family and must do family chores. Just like you cook his dinner, he can wash the dishes.</p><p> </p><p>Show him how, one by one. Don't be too picky or he will explode. Just a nice, "Thank you, I like it that you put the utensils in the dishwasher. I like it when the prongs are down rather than up. Could you do that next time?"</p><p> </p><p>Don't expect him to get it on the first run. Or the second. Good luck!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 235498, member: 3419"] Hi Alicia, welcome. I do not know your son's developmental age, but let's assume he's a lot like our kids, say, 2-3 yrs younger than his chronological age. Break chores down into bite-sized pieces. Don't just say, "Clean your room." It will overwhelm him and ensure a rage. Say, "Today we're going to clean your room. I will help you. That means I supervise." (For yrs, I told my son I'd supervise and he had no idea what I meant!) CLEAN ROOM Pick up all dirty socks and put in laundry basket in your room (give him a basket) Pick up all dirty underwear and put in laundry basket in your room Pick up all dirty shirts (tshirts and collared shirts) " " " Pick up all dirty pants and shorts " " Take basket to laundry room Get the idea? I like to put my son's list in the kitchen and tape it to the cupboard. I used to put it on the microwave but he doesn't use it early in the day any more. Also, do not expect your son to do this willingly. You're going to have to reward him. Give him M&Ms or a magazine as a reward. We had to strip my son's room of everything but a mattress in order to get him to respect us. Not that he really does, but that he knows we mean business. I would suggest stripping your son's room when he's not home. Put everything in the garage under lock and key. He has to earn back everything. It will make it a heck of a lot easier for him to clean him room! Then you sit down and in a calm voice, explain that he is part of the family and must do family chores. Just like you cook his dinner, he can wash the dishes. Show him how, one by one. Don't be too picky or he will explode. Just a nice, "Thank you, I like it that you put the utensils in the dishwasher. I like it when the prongs are down rather than up. Could you do that next time?" Don't expect him to get it on the first run. Or the second. Good luck! [/QUOTE]
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