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Identity after realizing you have no real FOO (Family of Origin). My thoughts.
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<blockquote data-quote="plymouthmom" data-source="post: 661319" data-attributes="member: 19298"><p>I have been struggling for quite some time with FOO issues and my difficult child. I have been divorced for over 20 years and have 1 difficult child adult son 28.</p><p>Both my parents were alcoholics. Father was a binge drinker with social anxiety mother was also addicted to pain medications depression anxiety anger issues. I thought my sister and I were close.</p><p>When my husband left me my sister basically cut ties with me so I felt I lost both of the people I loved and respected most.</p><p style="margin-left: 20px"><p style="margin-left: 20px">I tried for years to have a closer relationship with my sister. She said she had her own family. I did not understand. It was especially hard being a single divorced parent with a difficult child who had difficulties with school and ended up being a heroin addict.</p> </p><p>Fast forward to today. I realize that my sister and I are not close and there is nothing I can do about it. She married into a big Italian family and they always get together for holidays and beaching weekends a block from where I live. At first I went but I never felt welcomed or comfortable so I stopped going. The reality is that I spent years trying to have a better relationship with my sister. Parents are deceased. I also spent years trying to fix my son. It didnt work. He stole and lied to me and treated me disrespectfully. I felt guilty about his life and blamed myself.</p><p>I am now in my 50s and need to have my own life and find positive friendships. It has been lonely. It as been hard to meet new people. Any suggestions?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="plymouthmom, post: 661319, member: 19298"] I have been struggling for quite some time with FOO issues and my difficult child. I have been divorced for over 20 years and have 1 difficult child adult son 28. Both my parents were alcoholics. Father was a binge drinker with social anxiety mother was also addicted to pain medications depression anxiety anger issues. I thought my sister and I were close. When my husband left me my sister basically cut ties with me so I felt I lost both of the people I loved and respected most. [INDENT][INDENT]I tried for years to have a closer relationship with my sister. She said she had her own family. I did not understand. It was especially hard being a single divorced parent with a difficult child who had difficulties with school and ended up being a heroin addict.[/INDENT][/INDENT] Fast forward to today. I realize that my sister and I are not close and there is nothing I can do about it. She married into a big Italian family and they always get together for holidays and beaching weekends a block from where I live. At first I went but I never felt welcomed or comfortable so I stopped going. The reality is that I spent years trying to have a better relationship with my sister. Parents are deceased. I also spent years trying to fix my son. It didnt work. He stole and lied to me and treated me disrespectfully. I felt guilty about his life and blamed myself. I am now in my 50s and need to have my own life and find positive friendships. It has been lonely. It as been hard to meet new people. Any suggestions? [/QUOTE]
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