The psychiatric hospital has taken difficult child off zyprexa and starting him on seroquel tonight. I'm comfortable with that since many here seem to have had good luck with it. Any side effects or other info I should know about seroquel??? If this sits well on his system, he should be released from psychiatric hospital Mon, maybe Tues. We went ahead with the iep meeting today. My ed spec/ advocate "disappearred" for some reason- I had left a couple of voice mails for him and I haven't heard from him and he didn't show up. I have no idea why. Anyway, I guess the happennings of the last week has maybe made a couple of people at the school get their heads out of the sand and realize that there is more going on than bad behavior issues. The principal seemed to "get it" and seemed on board with everything, which surprised me. The other surprise, which wasn't as nice, is that when I was explaining that conversations about rewards/punishments/consequences only serve to add more stress to difficult child and that difficult child does already know what is expected of him- that is not the problem, the case manager was "not hearing me" and insisted on keeping something in his iep or bip about having a talk to difficult child about the importance of good grades and the need for difficult child to complete and turn in all his work. I really stressed this a couple of times, along with my concern about difficult child coming back to school the middle of next week and having make-up work to do and getting this "talk". I tried to explain that engaging difficult child in problem solving was very effective about 85% of the time and it also helped him to identify problems, and let someone else know what was going on with him- this helps build trust in others, confidence in himself, and taking more responsibility, rather than stressing out more, giving up, acting impulsively, etc. The principal and teacher got these concepts. The case manager said "well, we can talk with him and negotiate things sometimes". I don't see CPS as "if you do this, I'll do this" sort of strategy- at least not the point of the strategy. I don't think this guy gets it at all and he's going to be the one working with difficult child most of the time- several times a week. Does anyone have any suggestions? The asst principal, also a male, didn't seem to get it so well either. Is it a male thing? I'd gladly take them a copy of The Explosive Child if I thought that would help.