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Hi everyone. I posted a thread about this in another section of this forum and thought it would be good to ask here in general also, as I have recieved no responses.
First a little info. I do not have custody of my oldest son. His grandmother, (paternal), does. It's a long story I don't really want to get into too much detail now, but it was a long court battle which I lost. I still have parental rights, and it is part of the court order that I am to be notified of school meetings, and I need to be consulted about medication changes, among other things as well. I have attended every IEP meeting for my son, except for the last one, which I was given no notice.
Myself, my mom, and my son's therapist have always been invited to IEP meetings, always. Why would that change now? I have no idea. I am extremely upset, especially after talking to the social worker yesterday. I will get to that in a bit.
I found out about this meeting taking place, the following day when my mom and I were visiting my son. His grandmother told us about it. My mom said, "Oh, he had an IEP? We were not informed about that!" Grandmother told us she was not happy about the meeting, because they shortened his day from 4 hrs to 3. (She does not question the school about anything.)
I spoke to the social worker yesterday about this, and asked her if she was at the meeting. She said she was and it was awful, also she was given 2 hours notice prior to this meeting taking place. Being very upset about the short notice, she let the school know that was unnacceptable. Anyhow, she told me that they were shortening his day due to increased aggression towards teachers, staff, and other students, saying things like, "what worked last year is no longer working," and didn't try to come up with- any other strategies to try and help decrease the aggression.
I am wondering, because I no longer have guardianship, can they shut me out of IEP meetings like this? I am still his mother, I still have rights! I asked his social worker about this and she seemed pretty clueless. She told me that recently she spoke with- her supervisor about everyone in the department getting extra training in inderstanding IEP laws and regulations. Unbelievable.
I'm sorry, I don't post a whole lot here, I am extremely depressed, and do not want to bring my negativity to the board. I just was wondering if anyone had any advice for me right now. Is it against the law for a school to not inform parent of an IEP meeting? I would greatly appreciate any thoughts on this! Thanks!
First a little info. I do not have custody of my oldest son. His grandmother, (paternal), does. It's a long story I don't really want to get into too much detail now, but it was a long court battle which I lost. I still have parental rights, and it is part of the court order that I am to be notified of school meetings, and I need to be consulted about medication changes, among other things as well. I have attended every IEP meeting for my son, except for the last one, which I was given no notice.
Myself, my mom, and my son's therapist have always been invited to IEP meetings, always. Why would that change now? I have no idea. I am extremely upset, especially after talking to the social worker yesterday. I will get to that in a bit.
I found out about this meeting taking place, the following day when my mom and I were visiting my son. His grandmother told us about it. My mom said, "Oh, he had an IEP? We were not informed about that!" Grandmother told us she was not happy about the meeting, because they shortened his day from 4 hrs to 3. (She does not question the school about anything.)
I spoke to the social worker yesterday about this, and asked her if she was at the meeting. She said she was and it was awful, also she was given 2 hours notice prior to this meeting taking place. Being very upset about the short notice, she let the school know that was unnacceptable. Anyhow, she told me that they were shortening his day due to increased aggression towards teachers, staff, and other students, saying things like, "what worked last year is no longer working," and didn't try to come up with- any other strategies to try and help decrease the aggression.
I am wondering, because I no longer have guardianship, can they shut me out of IEP meetings like this? I am still his mother, I still have rights! I asked his social worker about this and she seemed pretty clueless. She told me that recently she spoke with- her supervisor about everyone in the department getting extra training in inderstanding IEP laws and regulations. Unbelievable.
I'm sorry, I don't post a whole lot here, I am extremely depressed, and do not want to bring my negativity to the board. I just was wondering if anyone had any advice for me right now. Is it against the law for a school to not inform parent of an IEP meeting? I would greatly appreciate any thoughts on this! Thanks!