Californiablonde
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Tomorrow morning is difficult child's annual IEP at the new school. I have spoken with her teachers and so far they say she is doing well despite her missing so much school due to her ulcers. Unfortunately we have other issues to be addressed like her coming in to the office when I'm around and going to the nurse's office too much. difficult child already missed two days this week due to her throwing up and not feeling good. I tried my hardest to make her go to school because usually once she throws up she feels better. But she argued and cried and refused to get in the car so I let her stay home so I could go to work on time. Today I convinced her to go to school. Right away she said she felt ill before her first class and wanted to go home. I told her she needed to tough it out and make it to class. During first period she felt sick and got released to go to the nurse's office. In the nurse's bathroom she threw up. Afterward she came to my office and cried that she wanted to go home. I took her to the nurse's office to see if I could get her help in getting her to go back to class. The nurse couldn't convince her to go, so I called the school psychiatric and asked him if he could talk to her. He had a talk to difficult child and convinced her to go back to her first class. But come break time, difficult child was back in my office crying and begging me to go home again.
She kept arguing with me until my supervisor finally yelled at her to get back to class. So difficult child huffed off and left. Then my supervisor apologized to me and told me she was only being the bad guy cause she wanted to help me out. She said she knows I must be frustrated at having difficult child disrupt my work and argue with me. So she figured her stepping in and getting difficult child to listen would help. And I really am grateful for it because I am the last person difficult child will listen to. So difficult child goes to her second class, and within fifteen minutes she is back in my office asking to go home. I tell her if she is really feeling sick she needs to go back to the nurse's office and not disrupt me in my office. So she goes in to the nurse's office and a few minutes later I have the nurse plus the assistant principal in charge of special education come up to my desk. They say difficult child is in the office crying loud and uncontrollably begging to go home. The nurse tells me she thinks difficult child isn't really sick enough to go home. The assistant principal tells me she can no longer come to my office for any reason, including break time, and before school. She tells me we will discuss a game plan tomorrow on how to handle difficult child when she comes to the nurse's office wanting to go home. We are going to have the first part of the IEP without difficult child, and after we figure out a game plan we will be calling her out of class to tell her the new rules.
I am hoping we can all come up with something that will work. I don't know what to do anymore. I never thought moving difficult child to my school would be this hard. I hope difficult child will follow the new rules and give not give me too many problems, but she is a difficult child so I am keeping that in mind and hoping for a decent outcome. So wish me luck tomorrow. In general I dread IEP's but now that she is at my school I am dreading this one the most.
She kept arguing with me until my supervisor finally yelled at her to get back to class. So difficult child huffed off and left. Then my supervisor apologized to me and told me she was only being the bad guy cause she wanted to help me out. She said she knows I must be frustrated at having difficult child disrupt my work and argue with me. So she figured her stepping in and getting difficult child to listen would help. And I really am grateful for it because I am the last person difficult child will listen to. So difficult child goes to her second class, and within fifteen minutes she is back in my office asking to go home. I tell her if she is really feeling sick she needs to go back to the nurse's office and not disrupt me in my office. So she goes in to the nurse's office and a few minutes later I have the nurse plus the assistant principal in charge of special education come up to my desk. They say difficult child is in the office crying loud and uncontrollably begging to go home. The nurse tells me she thinks difficult child isn't really sick enough to go home. The assistant principal tells me she can no longer come to my office for any reason, including break time, and before school. She tells me we will discuss a game plan tomorrow on how to handle difficult child when she comes to the nurse's office wanting to go home. We are going to have the first part of the IEP without difficult child, and after we figure out a game plan we will be calling her out of class to tell her the new rules.
I am hoping we can all come up with something that will work. I don't know what to do anymore. I never thought moving difficult child to my school would be this hard. I hope difficult child will follow the new rules and give not give me too many problems, but she is a difficult child so I am keeping that in mind and hoping for a decent outcome. So wish me luck tomorrow. In general I dread IEP's but now that she is at my school I am dreading this one the most.
