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<blockquote data-quote="WSM" data-source="post: 274533" data-attributes="member: 5169"><p>I think what bothers me is if you have enough self control to carefully move a desk chair and think ahead to turning off the fan, and to carefully snap off each blade rather than yanking them off which would have torn the fan from the ceiling, and to pile them on the bed, awkward and heavy as they are without dropping any on the wood floor, and then to turn the fan back on and replace the chair and a minute later speak coolly and detachedly about what you just did...then you have enough self control not to destroy the fan to begin with.</p><p> </p><p>If you are so angry you can't contain yourself that you have to act out, then don't you lash out at what's easiest and handiest. Even if he didn't want to cause a lot of damage and noise, he could have knocked all the stuff off his dresser onto his bed. He could have emptied his hamper, he could have thrown all the clothes out of his drawers. </p><p> </p><p>It's like it was a statement. But of what? Did he think everything in the room was his, and he didn't want to hurt anything of his own (which would be new), and was destroying something of ours hoping to hurt us through it? Then why not break the lamp which I'd clearly expressed doubt letting him have since it was half of a set and I didn't want it broken? Why not gouge the walls or draw on the door? </p><p> </p><p>And the only time throughout the whole deal was when he talked about his stomache being ripped, then he got passionate and his face red and almost cried. When he talked about being angry and breaking the fan he was detached and remote.</p><p> </p><p>Help me understand.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WSM, post: 274533, member: 5169"] I think what bothers me is if you have enough self control to carefully move a desk chair and think ahead to turning off the fan, and to carefully snap off each blade rather than yanking them off which would have torn the fan from the ceiling, and to pile them on the bed, awkward and heavy as they are without dropping any on the wood floor, and then to turn the fan back on and replace the chair and a minute later speak coolly and detachedly about what you just did...then you have enough self control not to destroy the fan to begin with. If you are so angry you can't contain yourself that you have to act out, then don't you lash out at what's easiest and handiest. Even if he didn't want to cause a lot of damage and noise, he could have knocked all the stuff off his dresser onto his bed. He could have emptied his hamper, he could have thrown all the clothes out of his drawers. It's like it was a statement. But of what? Did he think everything in the room was his, and he didn't want to hurt anything of his own (which would be new), and was destroying something of ours hoping to hurt us through it? Then why not break the lamp which I'd clearly expressed doubt letting him have since it was half of a set and I didn't want it broken? Why not gouge the walls or draw on the door? And the only time throughout the whole deal was when he talked about his stomache being ripped, then he got passionate and his face red and almost cried. When he talked about being angry and breaking the fan he was detached and remote. Help me understand. [/QUOTE]
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