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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 257288" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>From what I am told, I will be contacted within the next few weeks to start working on what I need to do before difficult child is released. If I comply and don't make waves but just go along with WHATEVER they say before and after his release, he will probably come home. If I say I can't control him or I am afraid of him or that I won't do all this because I don't think it's my fault or if I say I won't let difficult child come home, etc, he will be turned over to dss who HAS TO turn him over to a family member unless there is no family member that will take him or unless the family member is a criminal, basicly. The family member would not have to go thru all I've gone thru since it is not a custody battle between 2 parents who have to prove which is in the best interest of the child.</p><p></p><p>I checked and the only halfway houses or transitional places for kids coming out of state Department of Juvenile Justice are for kids 16yo or older, so that is out as an option and that is what I was originally going to try for. I would not be able to place difficult child anywhere myself- that's a similar situation as Residential Treatment Center (RTC). difficult child will be on parole and officially placement has to be made by Department of Juvenile Justice, not me, unless they turn him over to dss. So, if he's turned over to dss, he goes to my bro- everyone in the Department of Juvenile Justice here already knows that. I would have 1 year to then do whatever they wanted in order to try to get difficult child back. But in that year, difficult child would be living with my bro. If I didn't do those things and meet their expectations within one year, my parental rights would be permanently terminated. Oh- and while he would be living with my bro, I would be required to pay child support.</p><p></p><p>The final decision is the judge's but these are the only available options. Just like with his commitment- once the gal advocated against Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and the PO advocated for state Department of Juvenile Justice and made sure he didn't get into the liong-term local detention, the only option the judge had was either turning difficult child over to dss then or committing him to the state. So although it is up to the judge, the judge only has limited options to choose from.</p><p></p><p>The way we were living made me feel like the parent was the PO (and she had no business being a parent) and I was just a babysitter- that she didn't like and difficult child knew it. If the sate allows family therapy (and that is up to them), it would be done instead of weekly visitation and their therapist would decide what to cover.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 257288, member: 3699"] From what I am told, I will be contacted within the next few weeks to start working on what I need to do before difficult child is released. If I comply and don't make waves but just go along with WHATEVER they say before and after his release, he will probably come home. If I say I can't control him or I am afraid of him or that I won't do all this because I don't think it's my fault or if I say I won't let difficult child come home, etc, he will be turned over to dss who HAS TO turn him over to a family member unless there is no family member that will take him or unless the family member is a criminal, basicly. The family member would not have to go thru all I've gone thru since it is not a custody battle between 2 parents who have to prove which is in the best interest of the child. I checked and the only halfway houses or transitional places for kids coming out of state Department of Juvenile Justice are for kids 16yo or older, so that is out as an option and that is what I was originally going to try for. I would not be able to place difficult child anywhere myself- that's a similar situation as Residential Treatment Center (RTC). difficult child will be on parole and officially placement has to be made by Department of Juvenile Justice, not me, unless they turn him over to dss. So, if he's turned over to dss, he goes to my bro- everyone in the Department of Juvenile Justice here already knows that. I would have 1 year to then do whatever they wanted in order to try to get difficult child back. But in that year, difficult child would be living with my bro. If I didn't do those things and meet their expectations within one year, my parental rights would be permanently terminated. Oh- and while he would be living with my bro, I would be required to pay child support. The final decision is the judge's but these are the only available options. Just like with his commitment- once the gal advocated against Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and the PO advocated for state Department of Juvenile Justice and made sure he didn't get into the liong-term local detention, the only option the judge had was either turning difficult child over to dss then or committing him to the state. So although it is up to the judge, the judge only has limited options to choose from. The way we were living made me feel like the parent was the PO (and she had no business being a parent) and I was just a babysitter- that she didn't like and difficult child knew it. If the sate allows family therapy (and that is up to them), it would be done instead of weekly visitation and their therapist would decide what to cover. [/QUOTE]
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