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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 257409" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Thanks everyone. I'll have a lawyer assigned when my case comes up for breaking the court order to have the personality test.. I will have to ask him/her some questions. One issue is that when it's not really me on trial but I'm ordered by judge or po to do something, I'm not even sure it's appealable (sp) because there was no judgement against me since I was neever charged with anything- except for breaking one court order and that was recent.</p><p></p><p>When difficult child pulled the knife out on me this last time, I told him he'd have to earn his way back home. Thus, Residential Treatment Center (RTC) did look like the best option but it was profs who had already brought that up. I had told his latest psychiatrist and others that before difficult child comes home, my authority as his mother will have to be re-established.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, I think I know what "issues" the gal is in an uproar about now. She made issue of this when I testisfied last year- a lot- but since most educated people don't view it the same, I don't think, I really thought she must have been just trying to prove a point in her questioing of me. But now, I think she really believes that issues can't get resolved thru therapy- that the person needs therapy regularly for the rest of their life. This is the only thing that adds up- especially after the judge got that funny look on her face and told the gal that it had nothing to do with why we were in court that day.</p><p></p><p>I'll discuss this with my therapist tomorrow. I just hope when I get an attny assigned that he/she is a little more knowledgable about some things than the gal is. If we can get far enough along in therapy, maybe my therapist could write a different letter before my court date- one that says a teen who is raped and later goes thru therapy and resolves it doesn't necessarily have a debilitating mental illness that makes them a lifelong defective peron and unfit parent. The gal kept asking why difficult child didn't already know all this, why wasn't I in therapy continuously all my life, why did I think I was over it, etc. When I explained that my family treated me like a "tainted" person, the gal seemed to understand that moreso than understanding that a victim of a crime can become a survivor and not live their whole life as a victim. I tried to explain that the goal of the therapy in my 20's was to get over it- process it, get past the ptsd symptoms (although I didn't use that term), get control of my life, forgive, and move on, not be dependent on a therapist, which I accomplished. The judge seemed to get it- the gal did not. That didn't mean that I might not need therapy intermittently thru life, which I also explained, and I also let them know that I seek that out when necessary and there are times I asked tdocs and/or psychiatrist their opinion regarding parental decisions to try to miminmize dysfunctional traits being passed along to difficult child. She doesn't trust me to be in charge of it and in court she kept focusing on me "dealing with my issues", not how I might be triggering difficult child, and there have been NO other issues EVER specified. I HAVE to be the one in charge of my mental health- that was a big focus in my therapy. Oh well- if they go along with a thorough assessment, this should get resolved. If not, I guess we'll see. This GAL would have me playing a victim, on a handful of medications, and calling a therapist nearly everyday if she had her way. LOL!! </p><p></p><p>That info wasn't meant to re-hash anything- it was meant to fill in some gaps of info.</p><p></p><p>And I am praying that a parole officer is assigned who gets a small fraction of the concept that difficult child needs to be held accountable and that I need authority in my house- not to be portrayed like an untrusted babysitter to difficult child.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 257409, member: 3699"] Thanks everyone. I'll have a lawyer assigned when my case comes up for breaking the court order to have the personality test.. I will have to ask him/her some questions. One issue is that when it's not really me on trial but I'm ordered by judge or po to do something, I'm not even sure it's appealable (sp) because there was no judgement against me since I was neever charged with anything- except for breaking one court order and that was recent. When difficult child pulled the knife out on me this last time, I told him he'd have to earn his way back home. Thus, Residential Treatment Center (RTC) did look like the best option but it was profs who had already brought that up. I had told his latest psychiatrist and others that before difficult child comes home, my authority as his mother will have to be re-established. Anyway, I think I know what "issues" the gal is in an uproar about now. She made issue of this when I testisfied last year- a lot- but since most educated people don't view it the same, I don't think, I really thought she must have been just trying to prove a point in her questioing of me. But now, I think she really believes that issues can't get resolved thru therapy- that the person needs therapy regularly for the rest of their life. This is the only thing that adds up- especially after the judge got that funny look on her face and told the gal that it had nothing to do with why we were in court that day. I'll discuss this with my therapist tomorrow. I just hope when I get an attny assigned that he/she is a little more knowledgable about some things than the gal is. If we can get far enough along in therapy, maybe my therapist could write a different letter before my court date- one that says a teen who is raped and later goes thru therapy and resolves it doesn't necessarily have a debilitating mental illness that makes them a lifelong defective peron and unfit parent. The gal kept asking why difficult child didn't already know all this, why wasn't I in therapy continuously all my life, why did I think I was over it, etc. When I explained that my family treated me like a "tainted" person, the gal seemed to understand that moreso than understanding that a victim of a crime can become a survivor and not live their whole life as a victim. I tried to explain that the goal of the therapy in my 20's was to get over it- process it, get past the ptsd symptoms (although I didn't use that term), get control of my life, forgive, and move on, not be dependent on a therapist, which I accomplished. The judge seemed to get it- the gal did not. That didn't mean that I might not need therapy intermittently thru life, which I also explained, and I also let them know that I seek that out when necessary and there are times I asked tdocs and/or psychiatrist their opinion regarding parental decisions to try to miminmize dysfunctional traits being passed along to difficult child. She doesn't trust me to be in charge of it and in court she kept focusing on me "dealing with my issues", not how I might be triggering difficult child, and there have been NO other issues EVER specified. I HAVE to be the one in charge of my mental health- that was a big focus in my therapy. Oh well- if they go along with a thorough assessment, this should get resolved. If not, I guess we'll see. This GAL would have me playing a victim, on a handful of medications, and calling a therapist nearly everyday if she had her way. LOL!! That info wasn't meant to re-hash anything- it was meant to fill in some gaps of info. And I am praying that a parole officer is assigned who gets a small fraction of the concept that difficult child needs to be held accountable and that I need authority in my house- not to be portrayed like an untrusted babysitter to difficult child. [/QUOTE]
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