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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 257411" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>There are concerns (major ones) I have about difficult child living with my bro- if he was straight and had the same history, lifestyle, belief system, etc, I still would not be comfortable at all and there is MAJOR reason to worry. I just don't have evidence.</p><p></p><p>I never taught difficult child to "not love" his uncle and neither of us turned our back on him for being gay.</p><p></p><p>That being said, I am taking all advice here and mulling this over for a while to see how things go. If difficult child was 17yo and this stuff just happened, or if local foster care was an option he wouldn't be coming back here for a while. He is physically able to take care of himself fairly well. But, he has no defense when it comes to emotional stuff or manipulation or seeking approval from males-especially adult males. He seems to be on a good track with his sexual development though and I'd love to keep it that way.</p><p></p><p>Just to make sure my "lines drawn" re. therapy are clear- if I'm psychotic or delusional, I'm will to treat it. If I'm triggering difficult child in some way (whether or not it's a result of any mental illness), I'm willing to change that and try to work on better ways to interact. If they don't like the fact that I have familial tremors and want to medicate me for it, they can jump in the lake. One written personality test alone cannot determine these things.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 257411, member: 3699"] There are concerns (major ones) I have about difficult child living with my bro- if he was straight and had the same history, lifestyle, belief system, etc, I still would not be comfortable at all and there is MAJOR reason to worry. I just don't have evidence. I never taught difficult child to "not love" his uncle and neither of us turned our back on him for being gay. That being said, I am taking all advice here and mulling this over for a while to see how things go. If difficult child was 17yo and this stuff just happened, or if local foster care was an option he wouldn't be coming back here for a while. He is physically able to take care of himself fairly well. But, he has no defense when it comes to emotional stuff or manipulation or seeking approval from males-especially adult males. He seems to be on a good track with his sexual development though and I'd love to keep it that way. Just to make sure my "lines drawn" re. therapy are clear- if I'm psychotic or delusional, I'm will to treat it. If I'm triggering difficult child in some way (whether or not it's a result of any mental illness), I'm willing to change that and try to work on better ways to interact. If they don't like the fact that I have familial tremors and want to medicate me for it, they can jump in the lake. One written personality test alone cannot determine these things. [/QUOTE]
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