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<blockquote data-quote="howlongto18" data-source="post: 110342" data-attributes="member: 3129"><p>Thanks. I'm crossing my fingers. So far since the doctor we have only had one violent meltdown, so I bumped his dose up a little bit more and we'll see what happens. Unfortunately this was at my husband's family Christmas party. We had to trade off restraining him down in the basement while he screamed bloody murder for 30-45 minutes. I told him that whenever he is violent and cannot be locked in a safe room, he will have to be restrained. I'm so glad the psychiatrist showed me how to do this because he's getting very strong.</p><p></p><p>Does anyone else use this holding technique? Our psychiatrist said to turn him (that's the hard part) so he's face down on the floor. He said to hold his hands together behind his back and kneel on either side of his hips. That way there is no weight on him and he has only the flat cold floor to deal with until he calms down. It was definitely an easier way, I just wish I could figure out a way to keep him from digging his nails into both of our hands! Does anyone know a technique for getting him into the facedown position easily? I'm trying not to envision our life 5 years from now if this continues...</p><p></p><p>We've also just finished some space in our basement, and we now have the boys room seperate from the toys, so that timeouts are safer with less to throw. Our rule for the bedroom is only stuffed animals. The only thing he'll be able to do is to trash his bed and pull out the mattress which is one of his favorites, and to pull all the clothes off the hangers and the shelves and out of the hamper and scatter them everywhere. We have to figure out something to do in front of the glass window... any suggestions that are still fire safe?</p><p></p><p>I'm just really glad that our doctor suggested these things. As much as people like to call CPS these days, my husband and I felt so out of control... like the five year old was running the house. I feel like I have the power back now, because the doctor finally validated me, and gave me suggestions which I now can carry as ammunition when family and neighbors complain. Another good thing is that during this past year I've come to a place where I'm no longer embarrassed. I know that most people would not be able to handle my son. I have days where I feel like a failure, but then I try to imagine anyone else with him, and I realize that none of them have a clue. When they talk about struggling with temper tantrums I just have to giggle inside, because they are struggling with -tantrums-. When I take out all the emotion it's pretty clear that people who think a two year old tantrum is frustrating couldn't possibly wrap their brains around what this is like, so their judgements are not valid.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, thanks for the reply. I'm going to try to post fairly regularly and read about all of you guys, too. Maybe even have a suggestion now and again. My problem is that I tend to be an all in or all out type of person, so I really have to limit myself or I'll become a junkie on the site, lol.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="howlongto18, post: 110342, member: 3129"] Thanks. I'm crossing my fingers. So far since the doctor we have only had one violent meltdown, so I bumped his dose up a little bit more and we'll see what happens. Unfortunately this was at my husband's family Christmas party. We had to trade off restraining him down in the basement while he screamed bloody murder for 30-45 minutes. I told him that whenever he is violent and cannot be locked in a safe room, he will have to be restrained. I'm so glad the psychiatrist showed me how to do this because he's getting very strong. Does anyone else use this holding technique? Our psychiatrist said to turn him (that's the hard part) so he's face down on the floor. He said to hold his hands together behind his back and kneel on either side of his hips. That way there is no weight on him and he has only the flat cold floor to deal with until he calms down. It was definitely an easier way, I just wish I could figure out a way to keep him from digging his nails into both of our hands! Does anyone know a technique for getting him into the facedown position easily? I'm trying not to envision our life 5 years from now if this continues... We've also just finished some space in our basement, and we now have the boys room seperate from the toys, so that timeouts are safer with less to throw. Our rule for the bedroom is only stuffed animals. The only thing he'll be able to do is to trash his bed and pull out the mattress which is one of his favorites, and to pull all the clothes off the hangers and the shelves and out of the hamper and scatter them everywhere. We have to figure out something to do in front of the glass window... any suggestions that are still fire safe? I'm just really glad that our doctor suggested these things. As much as people like to call CPS these days, my husband and I felt so out of control... like the five year old was running the house. I feel like I have the power back now, because the doctor finally validated me, and gave me suggestions which I now can carry as ammunition when family and neighbors complain. Another good thing is that during this past year I've come to a place where I'm no longer embarrassed. I know that most people would not be able to handle my son. I have days where I feel like a failure, but then I try to imagine anyone else with him, and I realize that none of them have a clue. When they talk about struggling with temper tantrums I just have to giggle inside, because they are struggling with -tantrums-. When I take out all the emotion it's pretty clear that people who think a two year old tantrum is frustrating couldn't possibly wrap their brains around what this is like, so their judgements are not valid. Anyway, thanks for the reply. I'm going to try to post fairly regularly and read about all of you guys, too. Maybe even have a suggestion now and again. My problem is that I tend to be an all in or all out type of person, so I really have to limit myself or I'll become a junkie on the site, lol. [/QUOTE]
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