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I'm Back - I Wish I Weren't, But Now I'm A Grandma
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<blockquote data-quote="elizabrary" data-source="post: 749368" data-attributes="member: 11235"><p>Hi ChickPea- My alcoholic, depressed, anxious daughter had a baby with her abuser when she was 19. There was no way she would give up that baby, but she still wanted to run around and drink. Fortunately she got away from her baby daddy not too long after giving birth. Still, she was not a good mother and I was worried sick about my precious granddaughter. I called CPS on her many, many times. It would settle her down for a bit, but then she would be back at it. At any rate she's nearly 30 now, pregnant again, and in a better space. Hopefully she will stay well and sane, but I never know. I investigated all kinds of info about my rights, the child's rights, etc. while the insanity was going on. I don't know what state you're in but in my state if a parent is absent in the care of the child for 6 months that's considered abandonment and is grounds for adoption, even without the parents' consent. The reason I mention this to you is that if you adopt your grandchild you won't have to worry about threats from your daughter. It can also save you if she ever tries to just take the child and it will allow you to go no contact with your daughter if you ever feel the need to. It will also let you make decisions regarding schooling, medical treatment, etc. and won't allow your daughter to get her hands on any money in the child's name. </p><p></p><p>I know how difficult all of this is, and I surely know none of us expected to be parenting all over again as we age. I'm so glad your grandchild has such caring, loving grandparents. It will surely make a difference in the child's life. Sending peace to you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="elizabrary, post: 749368, member: 11235"] Hi ChickPea- My alcoholic, depressed, anxious daughter had a baby with her abuser when she was 19. There was no way she would give up that baby, but she still wanted to run around and drink. Fortunately she got away from her baby daddy not too long after giving birth. Still, she was not a good mother and I was worried sick about my precious granddaughter. I called CPS on her many, many times. It would settle her down for a bit, but then she would be back at it. At any rate she's nearly 30 now, pregnant again, and in a better space. Hopefully she will stay well and sane, but I never know. I investigated all kinds of info about my rights, the child's rights, etc. while the insanity was going on. I don't know what state you're in but in my state if a parent is absent in the care of the child for 6 months that's considered abandonment and is grounds for adoption, even without the parents' consent. The reason I mention this to you is that if you adopt your grandchild you won't have to worry about threats from your daughter. It can also save you if she ever tries to just take the child and it will allow you to go no contact with your daughter if you ever feel the need to. It will also let you make decisions regarding schooling, medical treatment, etc. and won't allow your daughter to get her hands on any money in the child's name. I know how difficult all of this is, and I surely know none of us expected to be parenting all over again as we age. I'm so glad your grandchild has such caring, loving grandparents. It will surely make a difference in the child's life. Sending peace to you. [/QUOTE]
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