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<blockquote data-quote="Mikey" data-source="post: 140424" data-attributes="member: 3579"><p>IKP: It sure does seem that our kids have a "charm gland" that goes into overdrive when they're in need (think the "Puss in Boots" scene from Shrek 2, just before Puss goes postal...)</p><p></p><p>My wife often asks "why are you so mean to (McWeedy)? He hasn't done anything to you today, and you're acting like an A__H_LE to him." My reply is always the same: "Because I don't trust him. Today he's okay, but tomorrow he won't be. And I'm not falling for the big eyes and charming smile again, only to get hurt later. When he proves it's for real, I'll let my guard down, but not a moment before".</p><p></p><p>I get the same thing from many of the parents of McWeedy's PotHead Posse, er, "friends". "He's such a charming young man". "He's so nice to have around". And, my personal favorite, "I'm so glad he's around my son, we need a better role model for <...<em>insert random posse member name here</em>...>".</p><p></p><p>I feel your pain, and I understand your distress over trying to figure out if it's "real" this time. And having a family member trying to convince you only muddies the waters further. But, as other wise CD members have told me, you know your child best. Trust your feelings first, seek guidance from those you <strong>trust</strong>, and do what you think is right. </p><p></p><p>Also, if you truly believe he might have taken your jewelry, you <em>could </em>file the police report but not say you think he did it. If it's distinctive, and you have a picture, many PD's have a stolen items DB that many (but not all) pawn shops and other "recycled" dealers can check. It may turn up that way. Funny story - I had a Schwinn 12-speed bike stolen from me in 7th grade, and I got a call from the police 6 years later that they'd found it and I needed to come pick it up; it was in their stolen property database. It wan't in great shape, but they did finally get it back to me when they found it <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/tongue.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":tongue:" title="tongue :tongue:" data-shortname=":tongue:" />.</p><p></p><p>I have a hunch from your post you know what's really going on, but are afraid to miss the one time it may be a real change. It's just my humble opinion, but with McWeedy I've decided that it's going to take more than "one time" to convince me that any change is real. And, if I mistake that "first time" for yet another con job, then I can balance it against the years of lies, deceit, defiance, and drug use. I think I'm owed one or two mistakes in return. If McW's really trying to change, he won't quit because I don't do backflips the first time he makes the <em>right</em> choice. And, by the second or third time, I'll probably start to get the hint. But for me, it's on his shoulders to convince me, not the other way around. He lost his right to any "benefit of doubt" a long, long time ago.</p><p></p><p>But again, that's just me. Take it with a shaker of salt, add some lime juice, and you can have a virgin Margarita on me...</p><p></p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/Graemlins/2.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":wine:" title="wine :wine:" data-shortname=":wine:" /></p><p></p><p>Mikey</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mikey, post: 140424, member: 3579"] IKP: It sure does seem that our kids have a "charm gland" that goes into overdrive when they're in need (think the "Puss in Boots" scene from Shrek 2, just before Puss goes postal...) My wife often asks "why are you so mean to (McWeedy)? He hasn't done anything to you today, and you're acting like an A__H_LE to him." My reply is always the same: "Because I don't trust him. Today he's okay, but tomorrow he won't be. And I'm not falling for the big eyes and charming smile again, only to get hurt later. When he proves it's for real, I'll let my guard down, but not a moment before". I get the same thing from many of the parents of McWeedy's PotHead Posse, er, "friends". "He's such a charming young man". "He's so nice to have around". And, my personal favorite, "I'm so glad he's around my son, we need a better role model for <...[I]insert random posse member name here[/I]...>". I feel your pain, and I understand your distress over trying to figure out if it's "real" this time. And having a family member trying to convince you only muddies the waters further. But, as other wise CD members have told me, you know your child best. Trust your feelings first, seek guidance from those you [B]trust[/B], and do what you think is right. Also, if you truly believe he might have taken your jewelry, you [I]could [/I]file the police report but not say you think he did it. If it's distinctive, and you have a picture, many PD's have a stolen items DB that many (but not all) pawn shops and other "recycled" dealers can check. It may turn up that way. Funny story - I had a Schwinn 12-speed bike stolen from me in 7th grade, and I got a call from the police 6 years later that they'd found it and I needed to come pick it up; it was in their stolen property database. It wan't in great shape, but they did finally get it back to me when they found it :raspberry-tounge:. I have a hunch from your post you know what's really going on, but are afraid to miss the one time it may be a real change. It's just my humble opinion, but with McWeedy I've decided that it's going to take more than "one time" to convince me that any change is real. And, if I mistake that "first time" for yet another con job, then I can balance it against the years of lies, deceit, defiance, and drug use. I think I'm owed one or two mistakes in return. If McW's really trying to change, he won't quit because I don't do backflips the first time he makes the [I]right[/I] choice. And, by the second or third time, I'll probably start to get the hint. But for me, it's on his shoulders to convince me, not the other way around. He lost his right to any "benefit of doubt" a long, long time ago. But again, that's just me. Take it with a shaker of salt, add some lime juice, and you can have a virgin Margarita on me... :toast: Mikey [/QUOTE]
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