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I'm going stir-crazy with difficult child's career stand still
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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 595646" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>DDD: I don't know the best choice either. Especially when we don't have the options yet. Of course, if he would ask me, I would be tempted to tell him to quit/take a break from sport, sort his mental health issues and after that; pursue other career paths. But I do know that he would regret doing that. And he certainly is not willing. And even if he would do that, would it help any? It would certainly take some stress and pressure off, but would it also take off his motivation and his stubborn manner of keep putting one foot in front of the other?</p><p></p><p>RE: We don't have exact deadline except that CBA induced summer break/independent training period starts late June and ends in the end of July. difficult child is not going back to his current city after the break. He has given notice to his landlord that they will be moving out before the end of June. If nothing else, his deadline to accept the backup plan is middle of July. But of course, if he accepts backup plan, he may be shipped to anywhere in very short notice till end of January.</p><p></p><p>Of course it is not like he would be sold as a galley slave. No one will take him in and pay for him just to make his life miserable. And difficult child himself has adopted rather pro athletic attitude there it doesn't matter that much where you play. He would prefer options little closer to home than his current city (when you have one free day a week and night before that you are free earliest at 9 p.m. and day after that you have to be back 8 a.m. driving three hours to one direction just to visit home is something you are not willing to do that often) but is also open to options even abroad. And all the possible countries (well most of them at least) are safe and civilized western countries. Where ever he ends up, it will not be that bad. but waiting and uncertainty stinks. When we know the options, things can be worked out, I'm sure.</p><p></p><p>Even if he chooses to take a break from exposure parts of his therapy, that too is okay, I guess. Just concentrating to stabilising his mental state, handling his symptoms better and improving his life skills and situation in therapy can't be that bad, can it? And we have already made sure he can keep his mental coach, who has been totally heaven-sent. Either paid by his new team, or if they are not willing, ourselves. Mental coach has promised to continue and teams showing interest seem to be willing to either pay for him or at least work with him. And he seems to even have somewhat sliding scale in his fees, if we end up paying ourselves.</p><p></p><p>So all in all situation is not bad. It's just that I absolutely hate this uncertainty. And yes, difficult child has tough time with it too even though he tries to be pro about it and behave like it wouldn't concern him a bit.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 595646, member: 14557"] DDD: I don't know the best choice either. Especially when we don't have the options yet. Of course, if he would ask me, I would be tempted to tell him to quit/take a break from sport, sort his mental health issues and after that; pursue other career paths. But I do know that he would regret doing that. And he certainly is not willing. And even if he would do that, would it help any? It would certainly take some stress and pressure off, but would it also take off his motivation and his stubborn manner of keep putting one foot in front of the other? RE: We don't have exact deadline except that CBA induced summer break/independent training period starts late June and ends in the end of July. difficult child is not going back to his current city after the break. He has given notice to his landlord that they will be moving out before the end of June. If nothing else, his deadline to accept the backup plan is middle of July. But of course, if he accepts backup plan, he may be shipped to anywhere in very short notice till end of January. Of course it is not like he would be sold as a galley slave. No one will take him in and pay for him just to make his life miserable. And difficult child himself has adopted rather pro athletic attitude there it doesn't matter that much where you play. He would prefer options little closer to home than his current city (when you have one free day a week and night before that you are free earliest at 9 p.m. and day after that you have to be back 8 a.m. driving three hours to one direction just to visit home is something you are not willing to do that often) but is also open to options even abroad. And all the possible countries (well most of them at least) are safe and civilized western countries. Where ever he ends up, it will not be that bad. but waiting and uncertainty stinks. When we know the options, things can be worked out, I'm sure. Even if he chooses to take a break from exposure parts of his therapy, that too is okay, I guess. Just concentrating to stabilising his mental state, handling his symptoms better and improving his life skills and situation in therapy can't be that bad, can it? And we have already made sure he can keep his mental coach, who has been totally heaven-sent. Either paid by his new team, or if they are not willing, ourselves. Mental coach has promised to continue and teams showing interest seem to be willing to either pay for him or at least work with him. And he seems to even have somewhat sliding scale in his fees, if we end up paying ourselves. So all in all situation is not bad. It's just that I absolutely hate this uncertainty. And yes, difficult child has tough time with it too even though he tries to be pro about it and behave like it wouldn't concern him a bit. [/QUOTE]
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